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My boyfriend and I have had dry sex before (with all our clothes..or *mostly* all our clothes on). I have been wanting to try it with just underwear (having my underwear on and him just having his underwear on), BUT I know this isn't safe because the ejaculation (or pre-ejaculation) could soak through both layers of the underwear. So, my best friend gave me a condom..and I was wondering,if my boyfriend puts it on, would the "just-underwear dry sex" be okay then? I just didn't know if it would break or something..
P.S. We've never had sexual intercourse and don't plan to until we're married..so..that won't happen.
Thanks!
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I think it would be ok, Miz S always says to wear a condom no matter what you are doing to be safe. It will be fine, just make sure it stays on the whole time!
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your goal is to keep any ejaculate or pre-ejaculatory fluid (pre-cum) away from you, so if your guy is wearing a condom *inside* his undies, you should be just alright. The rule is "always wear a condom" so I guess inside the undies counts as well.
However, I am not completely sure regarding the undies being abrasive towards the condom - anyone an idea on that? Mis S? Hmmm.....
Please remember to use surgical gloves and lubricant if you ever decide to venture inside the undies.
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Yay for you for being such a smart cookie about this! Definately better safe than sorry!
The condom inside the underwear should keep the pre-ejaculate/ejaculate away from you...but I don't know about the whole "undies being abrasive towards the condom" thing. Maybe Miz S or somebody else would be able to tell you.
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Ashley, I'm going to be pretty forthright here, so please forgive me if I offend you. I don't intend to.
But what I'm seeing here is what I start to see with a lot of teens who are saving intercourse for marrriage -- a sort of, working up to the everything-but... that confuses me a lot, and it's possible that's just because the no-sex-before-marriage thing just isn't part of my own tranditions or family.
My concern is simply this:: when things start moving like this, just PLEASE be sure not to let excluding one act mean forgetting about birth control and making it work, or being prepared should you ever need it. Things happen, and people do get carried away sometimes. It's human. Now, I know -- you're here asking, and so that's unlikely, but I care, and so I just felt that needed to be said. Just think about it, okay?
Yes, your boyfriend can put a condom on under his underwear, and as long as he puts a couple drops of lube inside it before he puts it on, he should feel fine. But it is a bit more likely to break than it would be otherwise, because it's going to be rubbing aganist cotton, which is a bit rough in texture, and which absorbs liquid.
So, as with ANYTHING: no birth control is 100%, but that's about the best you can do if you want to do this.
Hope I haven't lectured you to death, honey.
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Miz S..I'm terribly confused (I think today is my official "I'm dense" day) about what you said. Did you mean that..even though we (my boyfriend and I) are planning on saving sexual intercourse for marriage, that things can still happen and we can still get carried away and do it anyway? If so, I do understand that, and me and my boyfriend *have* gotten into some serious make-out sessions and we have gotten really into things..and came close to intercourse, but I just couldn't do it. I just *can't* do it. I have had times where we got so carried away that i thought i was sure I wanted to do it..but then i didn't because I know that I can't. If I'm totally wrong and off-track here..please tell me, cuz I was kinda confused. Thanks Miz S., ::smooches::
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I just want to be sure that you recongnize that sometimes people DO get carried away, and that if that happens someday, that what DOESN'T happen, Ash, is that you're so tied up in this idea that you get carried away without adequate birth control or health precautions.
And I guess I also was just asking you to give some though to how different what you're doing IS from intercourse -- I'm not suggesting you should just go have intercourse for the sake of doing it, so that you understand me. What I'm suggesting is that you're basically seeming to me to do some things which may carry the same risks, responsibilities and emotional involvement, and I just want you to recognize that and be sure you're prepared for them. Something I notice in some teens who are "waiting" for intercourse is that when they start to do everything-but, they start to feel very guilty and angry with themselves as they realize that it ISN'T that different, and I don't want that to happen to you.
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My bf and I are the perfect example of the couple who wanted to wait ... and didn't. *I* wanted to wait for six months, but after buying a pack of flavoured condoms (i thought they were flavoured, they weren't ... blagh) for oral sex, it just went from there.
Just know that it's wayyyy too easy to get carried away. I planed on waiting for 6 months in a relationship ... which turned into one month, to the day! Be prepared and know what you want. Condoms are a good start
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Miz S..you are so sweet. You're like my internet mommy!
I'm not sure if I'm going to go ahead and do the "just underwear dry sex thing with a condom". I mean, I know I want to, but I'm just not sure if I want to *now*. I know that I would stick to my limits and not let anything else happen, but I just might wait a while. Also, although I am a follower of the Catholic faith, I don't agree with the belief that birth control is wrong..so I will never forget to use it because I know how important it is to keep myself alive and healthy.
Miz S...thanks for caring about me...it really means alot to me that you care so much. I don't know what I'd do without you. ::wipes away an imaginary happy tear::
Much Love Always!
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