You know what, Rachel?
Many, meny young men have talked to me who felt the same way you do, except it is often worse for them since women and culture tend to assume they don't want to wait, or assume they want to jump at every sexual opportunity. In other words, it's assumed that a male is always ready, which puts a whole lot of undue pressure on them.
If you're asking me personally, I would have been happy to work within anyone's sexual limits -- and did -- but in the same vein, I would have made it clear to them that I didn't view sex and marriage in that way myself.
What you're asking really depends on each person and why they want to be involved with you. if someone simply wants a sexual relationship, then you propbably aren't cimpatible. If they see sex as one part of a larger whole, then it can probably work out just fine.
What I will say is what I usually tell all people -- everyone needs to know their sexual needs and their sexual limits, and needs to do the best they can to communicate that to their partners. If you're honest with people you're involved with and tell them you don't want to have any sort of sexual activity pretty early in, then they're able to judge if that jives with what they want, just like someone who tells you they DO want those things is giving you the fair chance to think about if that can work for you.
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