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Icon 1 posted      Profile for StarlitNight007     Send New Private Message       Edit/Delete Post boyfriend has told me that he has a certain condition concerning his nether region. from what i understood, there is a problem with one of the tubes inside his penis nad if he is sexually aroused and does not ejaculate, it becomes very painful for him. he is going for surgery after he turns 18, but i'm still confused on what this condition actually is. i feel kind of bad for him when he goes home to soon be in pain...and if you do know what the condition is, are there any ways that it can be alleviated a little?
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Hanne has had to do a TON of penile research lately, so she can likely add more to this than I can, but I can get you started.

In general, men with most penile problems will also experience pain during erection and intercourse, not just if they don't ejaculate. So really, nothing you do or do not do will cause or alleviate any pain he is feeling.

Overall, there can be numerous problems with penises, ranging from hernias to infections of the prostate or urethra to Pyronie's disease.

If he has seen a urologist, the urologist can explain to him (and then he to you) exactly what his condition is. I or Hanne can't tell you what it is or explain it unless you can tell us what his doc diagnosed. If you come back and post the name of the spcific condtion, we can probably help.

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Without knowing what the condition your boyfriend has been diagnosed with actually *is*, I can't really tell you anything. I find it very hard to believe that he can't have surgery for it, whatever it is, before he turns 18. In most cases, if there is a genital/urinary problem that can be corrected by surgery, doctors are eager to get it corrected as soon as possible.

I do not personally know of any disorders which would make it considerably uncomfortable for a man not to ejaculate once he had become sexually aroused. Given that most normal men experience erections (with or without actual sexual stimulation) anywhere from 4 - 12 times in a 24 hour period, the vast majority of which do not end in ejaculation, it seems like he must be in pain almost continually.

If there is in fact an ailment that your boyfriend has been diagnosed with, and you can provide us with the name of it, I'll be more than happy to go do some research and let you know what I know about it.

On the other hand, maybe you'd better go read this article right here:

In any case, if your boyfriend is experiencing pain because he has not been able to ejaculate, a quick session of masturbation will cure that. It'd be very supportive of you to tell him that it's perfectly okay by you if he goes and masturbates. I'm sure you wouldn't want him to be in pain, and I know with 100% certainty that masturbating can take care of the problem of him not having an orgasm, and that masturbation will do it without putting either one of you at risk of an STD or pregnancy. It's the best solution.

Hanne Blank
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[This message has been edited by Hanne (edited 12-09-2000).]

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