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I came across this article in USA Today through yahoo the other day, that claims that more and younger teens are engaging in high risk sexual behaviour (namely unprotected oral sex) while they don't regard oral sex as *sex* and therefore don't protect themselves adequately. According to the author of the article, the people involved regard themselves as *virgins* despite engaging in oral sex. The authors findings were inconclusive what kind of oral sex teens were engaging in - whether it is mainly girls performing oral sex on boys or whether boys are also performing oral sex on girls.
She does conclude however, that girls are being degraded because they get the impression that they have to take part in oral sex to keep their partner.

I was surprised by this article because my definition of *virginity* seems to be somewhat different of the people interviewed....and I also regard oral sex as something very intimate and definitely as *sex*.
In my personal definition, many things can be *sex* or *sexual* - definitely a lot more than simply intercourse.
For me, Virginity is something that runs a lot deeper than just the fact that you've never been vaginally penetrated or that you have vaginally penetrated someone.

So I was wondering: What are your definitions of Sex? And how do you define Virginity? Do you feel pressure to be sexually active or to do certain things in order to keep your partner as it seems to be the case with the people interviewed for the article?

I am not quite sure whether the article is very credible (after all, it's from USA Today *lol*) so I'd like to hear your views on this.
I know this topic is pretty close to the *intimacy* thread that is around at the moment, but I thought it would be worth to be posted separately.

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Go inside Alaska's head...

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For what it's worth, here at Scarleteen we have always held that sex is sexual activity -- any activity that is perceived as or felt to be erotic or sexual. Masturbation is sex. Oral sex is sex. Phone sex is sex. Cybersex is sex. Anal sex is sex. Penis-in-vagina sex is sex. Depending on the situation, kissing and necking can be sexual, too. It's a very wide and nebulous definition, but that's what we think. If it engages you on a sexual level, it's some form of sex.

As for what we feel about virginity, here's an article you might be interested in reading:

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