Well I don't really have any experience with the sexual side of this really, but I do completely agree with the Dr. who said that if a guy was going to drink don't go out with him, or negotiate stuff ahead of time. Drinking is kinda a touchy subject for me because my sister was almost killed last year when the car she was in got hit by a guy who's blood alchohol was more than twice the legal limit. The guy I went out with this summer was 21, so he could drink (I'm 19, so I can't, even if I wanted to), and I told him up front that if he was going to have one drink, that was fine but I was driving. And that if he had any more than that, then I was going home, not only because of the driving thing, but also because I didn't want anything to happen that we both weren't consenting to when we were completely in our right minds. And he said that he had a great deal of respect for me because I was so upfront about it.
------------------ "If it is your time, love will track you down like a cruise missile." ~Lynda Barry
I don't drink around guys, that's just how I am because I know when I drink I get very touchy and I don't want to be around guys when I'm like that. Even if I was with a guy who I knew wouldn't take advantage of me, when you're drunk you don't think about that kind of stuff. Not that I've done that much sexual stuff with guys anyway, but I know this way I won't do stuff and not remember it the next morning with a "I got drunk last night and I found a broken condom next to me when I broke up" story on Scarleteen.
And I wouldn't do anything sexual with a drunk partner for the same reason. I don't want him/her to wake up not knowing what happened or regretting it.
------------------ I'm so sexy it's almost evil
"...a ready supply of playdough that anyone can create the stuff of their dreams from" - Mz S
yeah, for me i actually feel like i am taking advantage of a guy if he is really drunk and i am not, even when its just kissing. its just not right if one person is not completely clear headed when thinking about any type of sexual activity
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I am not surprised by the findings of this study either....I remember that when I started drinking (the legal age over here is 16) or being around guys who were drinking, I often got myself into very dangerous situations with guys....something against my nature and something I'd never ever do these days.
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