ok, well, i am afraid that guys will be disgusted if they see my vagina for the first time. i havent been too far with guys and i am ultra scared. like, i have alot of extra skin down ther e and it is kinda wrinkly? is that normal? also can you guys voice your opinion? i am also scared about getting fingered. i know this is bound to happen soon and i was wondering if it hurts, or if it feels good, or if you guys enjoy it. HELP!!!
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Yes, it's absolutely normal to have folds and flaps and so on and so forth. That's the way vulvas (the external part of your genitals) are built. Everyone's a little different, but adult women's genitals are just like that. Many people, myself included, find it very aesthetically pleasing and enjoy what it looks like. Anyone who doesn't like what their lover's genitals looks like, I figure, doesn't deserve to be close enough to see them.
If you can get a hold of a copy, you should take a look at a book by Joani Blank called "Femalia" -- it is an art book of photographs of women's genitals, showing how much variation there is and how really very beautiful women's bodies are. It's very educational to see what other people's bodies look like, particularly since most of us only get extensive experience with our own.
As for fingering: different people have different experiences, but in general, no, it should not hurt. If it does hurt, you are either trying to do too much too soon, or you need more lubrication (use a water-based personal lubricant like Astroglide or KY Jelly, it helps a lot), or both. Go slow. Take your time. If it's not fun and doesn't feel good, there is no reason you need to do it.
Ok before i go on let me know after this post Miz Scarlet if i'm too detailed....fingering a girl in my opinion means to me that she trust me with her and she'll know im there for her.....as for the pleasure she seems to enjoy it, just depends on how you do it....also make sure he's kissing you to, so that the mood is just right.
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I used to wonder this too, like I was sure I was somewhat abnormal with all that extra skin and junk, and feared somewhat that I would see eyebrows pop up or hear 'ews' when my dear sweet took a gander. (He's had experience- I, at that point, had not). But nary a word was said, and obviously he thinks everything is just fine... Believe me, most guys who are getting anywhere like that (at least any one that you are being good and picky about letting get that far, and you ought to be) will be happy enough to be there- they probably will have no mind to complain, even if they do think it's weird. And if they do, they've probably never seen one before.
You know, seeing any body part you've never seen before can be a bit odd, and living as we do, even naked people can look really strange. But your bits sound just normal, and considering how many guys I've heard talking really lustfully about that sort of thing, very desirable. Being fingered . . .ooh, nice phrase . . . well, it can be very nice, he just needs to be gentle, make sure you're ready and have SHORT, FILED FINGERNAILS. That's what's most likely to hurt you, and it's easy to deal with.
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