i love my boyfriend very much, and we've got a great sex life, but we only started having sex a few months ago. we lost our virginity to eachother, and it was great. i wasn't expecting some mind blowing event, and it hurt a bit, but emotionally it was wonderful. now we're a lot more confortable with the whole deal, and when we have sex, achieving an orgasm is more of the goal. my question is, the length of intercourse hasn't really increased since the first time, and i thought it would. he can't go too long without cumming, and it usually leaves me somewhat unsatisfied. is there any way he can try to make it last longer?
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If your boyfriend is reaching orgasm way before you are, and it's less pleasurable for you than you'd like when you are having penis-in-vagina intercourse as a result, there are several strategies you can try.
1) Engage in more extensive sexual activities before you have intercourse, so that you are getting more pleasure from things other than intercourse. Many people do this so they're closer to climax when they start having intercourse.
2) Add other sources of stimulation to your intercourse so that you are getting more pleasure during intercourse.
3) Your boyfriend can always have an orgasm before you have intercourse, whether from masturbating or by some other method. Most guys last quite a bit longer the second time around.
And of course, you can combine these ideas. Remember that sex is a lot more than just a penis in a vagina, and there is a lot more to work with than just penis-in-vagina intercourse. Experiment and see what works best for you.
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