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lemming
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Okay, I jsut read a post on here that quoted someone as saying that it's rare for a girl to have an orgasm during her first session of intercourse...I just have a couple of questions..

is it really bizarre then that my first time *it was also his first* we BOTH came five times each? he was fifteen and I was sixteen, and if you divide it up it makes his recovery time between about 18 minutes...

then again, both of us had been masturbating for a long time before hand, we were relaxed, and I *the girl* was on top...

any thoughts on this? that was over a year ago, and now I'm getting curious.

~lemming

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Lady Moonlight
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My only thought is: You lucky girl, you!!!
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Heather
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In truth, MOST of the time, you get AROUSED by the seam of your pants rubbing in the right place. It isn't really very common for orgasm to happen incessantly and constantly with normal, everyday activity for most people.

What you experienced is certainly not the norm, lemming, but more times than not why most women don't orgasm with first intercourse is because the ONLY stimulation they get is that intrercourse with no additional foreply, or stimulation of other parts of the body.

On the other hand, in one sitting, it is a little -- okay, very -- rare for a man to both orgasm and ejaculate five separate times, to the point that it makes me wonder.

Orgasm is a tough thing: if someone hooked up some wires and gizmos to your brain, we could ttell when someone was having one. That aside, it's really hard to say when someone has or has not, and many, many times people think they haven't had an orgasm when they have, and that they have when they haven't. but the bottom line is that if you're enjoying yourself and getting pleasure, it doesn't really make a difference. No one is getting graded, and sex should be about pleasure and intimacy, not orgasm.


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