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Heather
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I'm noticing, in terms of advice letters, and which articles people read most of, that it seems a LOT of teens (and adults do too, really) think because they haven't had intercourse, or simply just because they want to believe it, that they or their partner couldn't POSSIBLY be carrying any STDs of STIs.

So, have you been tested? How often? If you have, how did it go? How did you feel? If you haven't, why the heck not?


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Well, I haven't been tested for any STIs. I probably should be, although I haven't had any sexual contact with anyone... you never know. But my parents will get suspicious/mad if I start asking them "Hey, mom, where can I get tested for STIs?"
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Heather
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A lot of lesbians, sadly, avoid getting tested many times because they are ashamed of having been with a man before, or worse still, ashamed because they think someone might assume they have been because they are getting tested.

I'm due for mine this year, and really, I'm looking forward to it. I feel it feels a LOT better to know than to wonder.


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I've never been tested. what does it involve?

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I'll let the pro's here at Scarletteen give you the details about how doctors test for STD's. I just wanted to let you know that it isn't a terrible expereince. I am regularly tested for STD's and while I can't say I look forward to the exam or having a blood sample taken (which is necessary for HIV and Syphilis testing), I am very happy to know that I am taking care of myself.

If you are nervous or scared, the best thing you can do is inform yourself. Scarletten has a bunch of articles that can help. I particularily liked this one: http://www.scarleteen.com/pink/pages/gyne.html


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I've been tested...I was really really really scared before I was, but it all turned out okay.

A question: how often should you be tested for STD's??

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i've never-ever been tested for an STD or STI. i have never even had sex. i know i don't have one. but i the minute after i have sex i will DEFINATELY get tested. a lot of people are scared to see the results, but isn't it early detection is the key?!?!?!
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I've been tested several times. Everytime that you go for your yearly physical for birth control pills, they test you. I was really nervous the first time, even though I had never had sex, and then the second time I was a little scared because I had had sex, but after that I wasn't scared anymore. The reason for that is because I had only been with my bf and he had only been with me, so after two tests I know that I was fine!!!
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I get STD screened yearly. I often get HIV tested more often -- I often make public appearances (I'm a writer and I write a sex column for a local weekly paper) at events where free anonymous testing is offered by one of the local clinics. If I'm someplace like that, I make a point of announcing "Hey, I'm going over to the free testing booth over THERE to get HIV tested!" and taking as many people as I possibly can along with me when I go so that they have company when they go get tested. I think it makes it a little less scary, plus I like being able to set a good example.

I recently had my 15th anniversary of getting STD-screened for the first time. I celebrated by making my annual appointment to go get STD-screened.

Let me be the first to say that getting regular screenings does NOT keep you from getting STDs. I've had STD screenings every year but one that I've been sexually active, and yes, I did manage to get an STD back in my early 20's even so. Fortunately it was one of the easily treatable ones.

Think of it this way: if someone who *knows* the risks, has almost always played fairly safe (yes, I've made dumb choices sometimes, just like everyone else), gets tested, and knows the symptoms can get an STD, so can you. Ain't no such thing as foolproof, and there's no sense in expecting that you're going to be the exception to the rule.

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I started my first serious, sexual relationship while I was at university. I took advantage of the student health services offered. I started getting tested. I've been tested 3 times, all the while in the same monogamous relationship. I've consistantly come up clean And yes, I got him into the habit of getting tested, too.

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I can't say my bf and I have been properly tested. I have this ridiculous feeling of apathy ("no, it just CAN"T happen to me") which will one day probably kill me.

Although (oh the joys of sharing a house with an MD) I get a blood test at the slightest sign of a cold, my pupils examined at every headache... I suppose that could be why I can't make myself take the seriousness of it as seriously.


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I've never been tested, never had sex. But
I plan to get tested soon, as I have suspicions...

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Even if you don't have suspicions, it's a good idea to get tested; some STDs can be asymptomatic or go a while between showing symptoms.

I got tested at my annual exam in January, and will probably get tested again when school starts.

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I haven't gotten tested and I know its not good, but my boyfriend doesn't have anything and he's the only one I have been with. I know I should though....

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Heather
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Just a note, connfused.

I recently read a statistic which showed that about 30% of young women with HPV had only ONE partner, ever, who they got it from. A goodly percentage of them got it in less than three months of sexual activity with that first partner.

Not trying to make you needlessly worry, but none of us can intuitively know what your partners are or are not carrying. Only regular testing can tell us that.

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I'm a virgin, but I just got tested recently since my bf and I have been discussing the possibility of having sex for a while. (As of yet, there has been no sexual contact.) I plan to get tested every year (or six months, which is better? I've heard both). And I haven't even made any guarantees. I know for a fact he's been tested frequently even though he's a virgin because he regularly has to get the full-shabang because of his extremely low blood pressure which would be effected if he did get anything. Also, even though I have been tested, I hardly think that makes me invincible, or him for that matter, and I'm insisting on safe sex (in whichever form) as is my bf. For intercourse I have two methods which I've discussed with my doctor (one being condoms). Some people might think I'm over doing this, but in my opinion, it's just taking care of myself. I'd rather cover all my bases from the start and continue to be healthy then have to deal with the consequences later.
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nope i've never been tested b/c i have never had any type of sexual encounter
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Heather
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If you have one monogamous partner you practice sex safely with, Mary, annually should suffice.

As a note, testing for STDs and STIS is specific. Chances are, in testing things for your partners blood pressure he has NOT had full STD and STI screens.

What he can do to find out is simply to ask for a record of all the tests he's been given in the last year.

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Been tested once last August, so I'll probably make another appointment to get tested soon.

It went fine. I recall that at the last physical that I went to with my doctor, I felt a lot more uncomfortable than I did with the gynecologist. I felt perfectly comfortable even when the gynecologist was using the speculum and inspecting my cervix and all that--it was completely non-sexual, and kind of like someone probing my arm or leg or some other body part. I didn't feel uncomfortable or violated at all.

When she actually did the pap smear, I would label it as "mild discomfort" which only lasted for a few seconds. So if you haven't been tested yet, please do so!


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I've been tested so many times I don't remember. Why so many? Because I was in the military and they required it every six months. Since that time, I haven't been tested but I'm married an monogamous.

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i have never been tested but i hope to be soon!
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I've been tested twice ... both times in February when i go for my Pap tests
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quote:
Originally posted by mingo:
Why so many? Because I was in the military and they required it every six months.

Yup, my first test came at the hands of the military as well. I didn't have much risk to speak of back then, but it was still interesting. Since then I had to get tested as part of a Social Welfare class, and now its just sort of an annual ritual. It's amazing what doctors can do these days. Getting tested is painless, quick, easy, and great for peace of mind.

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I get tested on a yearly basis, when I go in for my pap smear and all of that fun stuff.

I don't do well when people take my blood, so I came very close to passing out. They only got 3/4 of what they needed. It took me 10 minutes and two juice packets before I felt well enough to drive home.

And I get to do it again in about a month.

My current partner has never been tested. He really should, but his theory is that if he had something, it would have shown symptoms by now. It had been a year since he last had sex and when we had sex for the first time. I gently insist, but he's as stubborn as I am. But we use condoms every time. I don't want anything, and he is scared to death of having children.


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I got tested at the free clinic downtown before deciding to have sex with my boyfriend. I just wanted to make sure that I didnt have anything that I could possibly infect him with. It was so scary going there but Im soooo glad I did. It made me feel more confident about myself and it also took away most of my fear about having sex.
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I got tested at my local clinic, simply for peace of mind. I wanted to know that I would not be endangering my BF's health, or my own. I was INCREDIBLY nervous about the whole thing, but it was so worth the anxiety and blood test to know that I have a 100% clean bill of health It's so much sweeter not having to wonder about "what if's??" as there are so many ways to contract STD's/STI's from non-sexual contact.
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this may sound pretty bad... but i dont really know what i have been tested for... my moms a nurse and she gets me tested for about 5 million different things... but i dont think i've tested fro STIs or STDs... and i know there is a chance i may have them... but i'm not all too worried... i'm not sexually active in any way... and i dont share food or drinks with people... yuckie!... or thats how i feel anyway...

i think when i start going to a gyno i will get tested... just as a safety precaution...


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I haven't been tested yet, tho I know I should. I'm kind of paranoid about the whole thing... I nearly flipped out when they required me to take an impromtu pregnancy test when I had some blood work done- even though I knew for various reasons the chances of me being pregnant were like 1 in a gadzillion. I know I'm going to get tested eventually, but I'm still somehow ashamed (?) of being sexual in anyway... which is slightly ironic since normally my shame has to do with what my parents think of me, and in this case they'd be incredibly glad that I was being sexually involved w/ a man instead of a woman. Anyway, I have been sexually active w/ two girls before and now am sexually active (tho haven't had the dictionary version of sex) w/ a guy... so yea-- I should be tested. I wish it didn't have to be such a big deal.
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not yet, but I will be at my yearly exam, in (i think) four days.
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Im about to get tested in a few days actually. I'm not sexually active or have any wish to be sexually active anytime soon but I thought "What's to lose?". Might as well get tested. Ou never know, I could have picked something up someother way.
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I did it last month, got the printout of the results a few days ago, and freaked out. While everything else was clean, the tests showed that I had antibodies for Hepatitis B, which just seemed wrong, especially since I'd been vaccinated against it when I was thirteen or so. And then I realised . . .that's exactly why I've got antibodies. The moral here? If you don't quite get something, ask about it! It'll save time and freaking out.

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I have not been tested, although I feel I should, even though I am not sexually active. I'm just paranoid about alot of things, and should I have sex in the near future, I want to make sure I am clean. I would also like to know that my partner is too. Getting tested would probably make me feel alot better and this is just one of the things that fuels my anxiety towards sex. I plan on finding a free clinic near my school when I go back. Although I don't think it would be a big deal if my parents thought I was sexually active, I still remain very secretive about my personal life. If we all didn't make such a big deal about this, I think it would be alot less of an issue.

Milke,

Does your mother or father have hepatitis or did any of their family have it? If they did, there is nothing to worry about most likely. Hepatitis is in my dad's side of the family and as long as you have the antibodies, you are fine. I only learned of this when my mom told me. You should probably ask the clinic anyway, just to make sure though.

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See, all us Ontario types get Hep-B shots, or at least most of us. It's done through the schools. Technically, a vaccine is usually an extremely lose dose of a virus, which helps your body develop the antibodies against whatever.

But yeah, I get tested whenever the doc and I decide I need a Pap done. I don't usually get printouts, though. She calls if anything's wrong, otherwise silence is golden. Plus, I had my blood done at some point or another. I seem to get regularily drained for something or another every like 3 months. (as in blood)

I'm clean, but the boy's doctor likes to be difficult: mine used to be too. Apparently unless you show symptoms there's no reason to test. It is acutely short term thinking.


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Joe, cupcake had it exactly, I was vaccinated against it because that's what my province does, so it's to be expected that I'd have antibodies, but that didn't occur to me at first. It's good to *know*, though, either way!

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