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Pets2luvr
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I told my best friend that I was confused about my sexuality she was really supportive and told me that she loved me no matter what and it wouldn't change anything. But the thing is I've kind of been avoiding her and i dont really even know why
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eryn_smiles
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Hello [Smile] , I think it's brave of you to be able to come out to your friend. Good on you! I'm glad she sounds very supportive too. Sometimes it can feel awkward to see someone after sharing something big and personal with them, but often that feeling will pass when you know you can trust them. How long have you been avoiding her? Do you have worries about seeing her again?

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Pets2luvr
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Thanks, I dont know if its exactly brave though since ive avoided her ever since. Yeah she a pretty awesome friend. That definately makes sense; ive been avoiding her for almost two months now.I guuess maybe I'm just still worried that our friendship will change. Thanks
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eryn_smiles
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For me, it was (still is!) very scary coming out to good friends. I've had meltdowns about it in the middle of the night. But I think that if you avoid her when she's been supportive, then you're the one causing the friendship to change. Do you know what I mean? I'm not saying it isn't scary though..

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