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Is 16 too young to identify as Asexual or as somebody with very low sexual attraction to others?
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Asexual is a sexual orientation, just like homosexual or hetrosexual. You can't really be too young for an orientation, and only you can identify your orientation whenever you feel ready. If you feel ready at sixteen to identify your orientation as asexual, then that is absolutely fine.

Have you read this one?

'Obtain the virgin's consent before you marry her' - Prophet Mohammad (pbuh)

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Thankyou, I guess I didn't really get whether 16 was a bit young to know fully, which is probably influenced by what a lot of people have said to me.

Thanks for the link as well, parts of it I probably could have written myself so it was really helpful. [Smile]

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It might also help to recognize that human sexuality can be very fluid, and all people don't have the same developmental arc.

So, for instance, one person who feels asexual and identifies that way at 16 might find they feel and identify that same way through their lives. Another who does may fine that even just a few years later, asexual no longer feels like who they are or fits them as an identity.

All anyone can do if they want to sexually identify their orientation is to do so based on their sexual past and present, since no one can see into the future. So, if this feels right to you now and makes sense with what you know about yourself, you don't have to have the superhuman ability to project how it may or may not suit you later. You get to identify that way now if you want, whether or not it will always describe your sexuality well in the future.

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