I filled out a survey about masculine bodies recently for a friend of a friend who's doing some research and it asked a lot of questions, but one section that stuck in my mind was asking about how I talk to men about how I feel about my body...
How often do I speak about my own body in a postive way to other men? How often do I speak about my own body in a negative way to other men? How often do I speak about other men's body in a postive way to other men? How often do I speak about other men's body in a negative way to other men?
It's so strange to think about it because I hardly remember having any conversations like that.
I feel like female bodies are under a lot of scrutiny and there is pressure to be constantly surveying but also talking... magazines seem to be packed full of conversation about what messages to listen to, to feel bad about your body, complain about it, to feel good about your body and celebrate and flaunt it etc.
The images on men's "health" magazines seem to imply much of the same stuff, people with ripped abs and bulging biceps but the people who have the masculine bodies and identities that the mags are targeted at, don't seem to have the same tradition of talking about it.
Does anyone else feel like there's a bit of a silence there? If we're unhappy with our bodies, is there way to say that? If we're happy with our bodies or have something positive to say is there a way to say that?
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If you are unhappy with something you can just say it? Maybe I'm not fully understanding your post. I think men talking about their or someone else's body is tricky: theres fashion for these ripped bodies but same time men should not talk or complain about their looks cause thats not.. man-ish. I guess these are just signs of stereotypes. I remember I heard somewhere a saying: if your BF asks does he look fat in these jeans, he is probably gay. Or something like that. Thats quite annoying and just make things harder.
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