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softball9pyro
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So I have been questioning my sexuality lately. But with that my mom is spiritual and other kind of things so she has this book and what it is is it tells you what a certain sickness or injury means. So me having done two things meant 'I am confused about my sexuality' and 'I hate pretending with family'. Since then my mom has been asking me about guys all the time and is on my back about whhy I don't have a boyfriend and have never kissed anyone. So she keeps pressuring me to go out with a guy.
My best friend is also now guy crazy and keeps trying to figure out if I have a crush on anyone and saying i should go out with this guy or that guy. I think she thinks I'm a lesbian or bi or something because something about a lesbian came up and she asked me something I don't really remember what but basically my reply kind of could have come across as that.
Why can't they just leave me alone! I just want to figure it out myself with out them telling me 24/7 that I NEED a guy.

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Have you told either of them that their behavior is making you feel uncomfortable and pressured? Even if you were not questioning your sexuality, it would still be pretty intrusive for your mother and your friend to make these comments. It's totally valid for you to feel pressured, and talking to them and asking them to dial it down a little doesn't necessarily mean that you have to tell them you are questioning your sexuality.

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I have and my mom is still pretty presistent. I think it's because of the thing with what the book said and that i fit a lot of the stereotypes. Its getting on my nerves and now she thinks I spend too much time with my best friend. Someone who also very easily fits the stereotypes. My best friend has started to lay off on the topic though.
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