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Hi. I'm a first-time poster. If there's another thread of this topic, feel free to let me know.

Anyway, I am in college and have only had two crushes in my life. Both have been guys, and neither was interested in me.

The problem is that lately, I don't seem to be getting crushes on anyone at all. In fact I don't even seem to be particularly attracted to anyone in particular.

I'm not asexual, though. It's not as if I don't desire a relationship with someone. I do. It's just that, when it comes to actually being attracted to someone and getting a crush on someone, that hasn't happened for me for a few years.

I've had "celebrity crushes" before. Mostly, this consists of me noticing some celebrity is kinda cute and squealing every time that celebrity appears on television. This is somewhat shallow and unsatisfying, though.

Because of this, I am very confused now. What's going on here and why aren't I getting crushes on people?

[ 12-29-2010, 12:11 AM: Message edited by: lilweirdo ]

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We aren't always in areas or communities in which we find people to whom we are attracted, and if our bases of attraction is particularly narrow, that can be all the more common.

So, that's what I'd probably suggest evaluating first. Do you feel like you see the kind of people you'd tend to find yourself feeling attraction to in your day-to-day?

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I go through long asexual phases that can last weeks or months or even years.
I don't know if it's hormonal or situational or what. Perhaps a combination.
It sounds like you are not crossing paths with the type of person you desire to be in a relationship with.

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