So, I've got a bit of a problem I need advice on... (Well, why else would I be here? XD I'm kind of nervous...) Also not entirely sure if this is the right subforum.
Mentally, I pretty much self-identify as a furry. But, there seems to be a huge social stigma to identifying as such. It seems that most people think that people who call themselves furries seem to be either a) attracted to animals, or b) attracted to people in fursuits, or c)... somehow not attracted to "normal" people.
I'm none of these... Personally, fursuits seem... hindering. And way too temperature-hot. I'm perfectly attracted to "normal" people, but I'd say it's a kink to behave slightly animalistically! And personally, bestiality grosses me out.
What does turn me on/is a kink of mine is one or both partners dressing up in cat ears/tails and body markings mimicking feline patterns... there's something about the animal qualities and playing like you have enhanced senses that makes me shiver.
So, my question is, how would I go about clarifying this to potential partners? (I'm about a 1-1.25 on the Kinsey scale) I don't want to be seen as a creepy deviant, but I do still want to indulge if a partner is fine with it. It's just proposing it in the first place... The Napoleonic era British naval uniform kink and Roman armor kink is already a little weird, I admit. (Ioan Grufudd ruined me... that actually may qualify as a fetish, since I got it ingrained so young!)
I just don't want to scare off men when I pull out the ears and tail and henna tattoos...
I would say to approach this as you would any other kink, since that's what you consider this to be. If you feel uncomfortable identifying as a furry, since you say there is potential stigma to that, then you can simply start off by suggesting the things you mentioned wanting to try: dressing up/roleplaying. If your partner is open to that, then you get both the outlet you want and probably a good idea on how open your partner would be to the idea of furries.
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I agree with evilstrawberry that a good way to begin to bring it up may be to ask if they're open to dressing up or roleplaying. Just from reading this, it seems like you'll do really well at bringing it up in a way that is nonthreatening and making it clear that it's not a dealbreaker for you if they don't want to.
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