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samanthamt
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I'm 20 years old and I've always thought that I liked guys. I mean, I do like guys. But all the sudden I'm finding myself attracted to a girl in my A and P class. I think shes...into girls. But I don't know for sure. A huge part of me wants to ignore my feelings, but then another part of me wants to explore them. I'm really unsure though...what if I'm wrong and shes not gay, then I would be stuck in a class with her for the rest of the semester. I would be humiliated. I just really don't even know how to approach this whole deal.

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eryn_smiles
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It's ok to feel unsure and also really common. Many people are attracted to both guys and girls. Is it the first time you've felt like this?

Is this girl a friend of yours? You may decide to give it some time or bring it up indirectly, like asking if she's seeing someone or find out what she thinks about gay issues in general. Or you could just ask her out for coffee or something and see what happens. In my opinion, it's not really different than if you asked out a guy in your class, who turned out not to be interested. Whatever their sexual orientation, sometimes people aren't interested, it happens. But if you don't ask, you never find out.

From personal experience, I can say it's hard to ignore these kind of feelings. It may be different for you though.

Hope that helped. This is a link about questioning your orientation-
http://www.scarleteen.com/article/gaydar/q_is_for_questioning

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