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Hey there!

I've looked around and can't seem to find a topic like mine.. though I'm sure it's very similar to many out there but I figured I'd make a new one.

I'm 19 (and a guy) and 3 years ago I came out to my friends and family as gay. I'm currently starting to have second thoughts on this: I've always considered women attractive but could never see myself being romantically involved with them; now I'm not so sure.

The problem with this is I feel like I need to be in a relationship to work this issue out and I can't do that to anyone; it'd feel like I'm just using them and that's not fair to them or myself.

I suppose it's going to take time, above all else. But if anyone has any suggestions or input it would be greatly appreciated!

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Welcome to Scarleteen. [Smile]

It's totally normal to have some shifts in orientation over your lifetime - orientation is fluid for a lot of people. Ultimately, time will help make things clearer (I know that's probably not what you really wanted to hear, but it is true).

How you go about working this out for yourself is entirely up to you; there's no one right way to figure all of this out and it can take quite a while. There's also no need to identify as anything if you don't want to right now.

In the meantime, you might find this article helpful: Q is for Questioning

"Another world is not only possible, she is on her way. On a quiet day, I can hear her breathing." -Arundhati Roy

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Thank you very much for the response! I'll definitely take a gander at the article when I've the chance.
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