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I've already posted a thing on this but I'm REALLY confused!!!!! My friend and I are always together. We stand next to each other, sit next to each other, do everything together. Everything! Lately though, we have been making eye contact a lot, and she keeps touching my arm or shoulder. Like, holding my upper arm for a moment. Or one time, she put her hand on my shoulder and I turned to ask her what she wanted, but she said 'nothing'. I have known I liked her for a while, but never has she made this physical contact before. It makes me feel good, but I have no idea what I should do, or what it means. So confused....
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Don't assume that just because someone touches your arm or looks you in the eye that it necessarily means something. Some people are "touchier" than others and like to communicate by making physical contact.
If this is someone who you would like to get closer with relationship-wise, communication is a much more concise and reliable way to understand someone's feelings rather than what you're describing here.
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Anecdotally, as a very physical person, I have had a very hard time with that throughout my life, with people presuming I'm expressing sexual interest by touching when I'm not doing that at all.
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Oh, but friend is NOT physical at all. She hardly even touches her family.
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It is still more reliable to talk to this friend about your feelings and hers. You can't assume too much through physical contact-- touching arms or shoulders is pretty inconsequential in the scheme of things.
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