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Ok, I know i just posted, but i had a few things i needed to add. i think the main issue that i was trying to get to in my recent post was that it bothered me that "straight" sexual fantasies dont excite me quite so much anymore. its almost like being with women is "bad" and kinky and it that is why it turns me on, hence my feelings in that respect (towards women) are purely sexual and they probably have to do more with me being kinky than anything else. I just wish I felt as turned on by men in my fantasies as I do in real life (lol). Another theory Ive come up with is that maybe it has something to do with some things that have happened over the last two years (my parents are getting divorced, I found out my dad cheats on my mom, and I ended a very rocky relationship). In any case I want to fantasize more about men! And I want this because when im with a guy is when i feel sexiest (and also because im trying to regain a bit more of my sexuality, it kinda went through some hard times when I became more religious for a little while, which i really regret) Its weird, its like something is blocking my heterosexual fantasies. I used to fantasize about it all the time...
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I'm no professional but I do have some possible explanations. It's definatley possible that your feelings about your parents divorce or the relationship you got out of could effect you in this way. However, it would be unusual for either of these to be causeing the problem unless they corresponded to the general time you started losing interest in your normal fantasies. It's also possible that you have become bored with your regular fantasies. In my experiance this is more common and probably more likely.

Fantasies are just like anything: if you do (or fantasise) the same things over and over its likely that youll eventually lose interest. It may just be that the idea of non-heterosexual intercourse is new and exciting even if it doesn't interest you in real life.

I wish I could give you some advice on how to enjoy heterosexual fantasies again but like I said, I'm definatley no expert, but I hope I've been at least some help.

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