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Mass1gBewegt
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Ok, so here goes:

When I was little, I experimented. I think everybody does a bit, only some more extreme than others. I had a best friend, also a girl, and we kissed a lot and got into a habit of 'exploring each other' and touching and i really really loved it. Like, whenever she came over I couldnt wait.
I had another friend who i visited when I was 11 and we ended up kissing. a lot. with a lot of touching.

Both friends came out as bi within the last 5 years. We're all 18 now, but when I visited the neighbourhood and we got talking about our 'hookups' none of us were interested in each other anymore.

So now, im in my new town. have been for five years. Ive had a boyfriend for 10 months, and he was the first boy I ever kissed. I have several bi friends, and while one had admitted she thinks im "hot as hell," we both have boyfriends.

My issue is that while I love my boyfriend to death, and dont notice other guys much anymore, I cant help ut nootice girls everywhere. A lot of my friends, ill be walking next to them and want to take their hand. I'll just want to kiss them. I'll hear about two of them hooking up and really with i'd been there.

So I know I'm bi. however, ive only identified as 'bi-curious' to a bi curious friend and the bi friend who thinks im hot. theyre the only people ive told. the majority of my friends are straight, and some are hobophobic, which worries me. I dont want to tell anyone, especially my boyfriend, because ill worry about how theyll react. But i feel bad about m boyfriend because i feel like im not being entirely honest with him.

help?!?!

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sundial
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I think that if you're not ready to talk to your boyfriend about this yet, you don't have to. (As long as you are following whatever agreement you two have about dating other people etc.)
Orientation and identity can be fluid and can change over time, and it's up to you to decide how you identify. Have you looked at these articles? the bees and the bees and I think I might be bisexual

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