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crzyinfla
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Ok. I by all means am straight. But I have a friend. She is 16 and very confused. She is in love with my boyfriends mom(they have known each other for a while through Pony Club). She sends her all kinds of mean texts acting like they are dating. She is a happily married 47 year old. I want to help my friend. WHat could be causing her crush i guess on my boyfriends mom??
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Heather
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You know, crushes are generally pretty darn harmless, and they also tend to come and go pretty quickly, especially when the object of them is disinterested or unattainable.

People get crushes on people they are attracted to and like. It's nothing very complicated, but crushes are also based more on an idea of someone than on how that person actually is.

But since this is clearly fantasy, I don't see it as much to be concerned about. Chances are, this mother will likely say something herself soon enough, anyway.

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crzyinfla
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well its crushing to the point of obsession
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Heather
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Crushes basically are obsessions, since again, they're not actual mutual relationships. They are one-sided fixations.

So, again, I'd just give it time. Since they don't tend to be reciprocated, they usually pass soon enough.

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