Hey guys... first off, I think this will be confusing to try to explain, but if anyone has some kind of similar experience or even recognizes what I'm talking about, that would be great. Just getting it off my chest will be a big relief I think. The way that I feel about relationships is that, romantically, I am attracted to people regardless of their physical gender or gender-identity, which I guess would qualify as bi. But physically, I have no attraction to anyone at all. Hugging I'm fine with if I'm comfortable enough with that person, kissing is bearable, but anything more sexual than that feels awful no matter who it's with. I was looking up some stuff about asexuality but it doesn't seem to take into account that I do want some kind of relationship that's more than friendship (just not physical.) Do these kinds of relationships even exist, or am I kidding myself? Is this a valid orientation that is shared by anyone else? PS. Sorry that this came out sounding pretty whiny... the situation has been feeling more stupid and weird than ever lately, so any input at all is appreciated.
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Those kinds of relationships do indeed exist... here's a quote from the Wikipedia article on Asexuality:
quote:Relationships Asexuals may experience romantic attraction, or the desire for, fantasy of, or propensity towards romantic love, often directed at people of genders falling within an affectional orientation. Many asexuals also identify as straight, gay, or bi, using the terms in a strictly affectional sense, or alternatively as hetero-, homo-, or bi-romantic. Some asexuals identify as "aromantic." A relationship between an asexual and a sexual person may or may not involve sexual activity.
If you read the rest of the article, it's pretty clear to see that this has been defined as a valid kind of orientation. Even though I don't have any similar experience, I'm willing to talk or just listen if you want to, and other people who may have more of a hands-on view may drop by, but I thought you'd appreciate that article. *Hugs* for you. This is a tough issue to go through by yourself; good for you for posting.
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