So, as I've stated in the past, I identify as a bisexual. But lately I've been rumenating about whether or not I'm actually a bisexual. To be more specific: whenever I fantasize I always imagine myself with a woman. At times, I've tried to envision myself with a man, but it doesn't really have an affect on me. I know that to be bisexual, it doesn't really matter which gender your attracted to more. But lately I haven't really be attracted to guys. Do I notice if a guy is cute? Sure! But I'm not necessarily turned on by him.
At a young age, I guess you could say I was boy-crazy. I always had these crushes, and I would have the typical dreams of marriage and children. But my first ever recollection of being turned on by a woman was when I was like 11. Ever since then, I've been quite conflicted with my emotions. Am I gay? Am I bi? Am I just going through a 'phase'?
Any advice would be really appreciated.
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Well, you're whatever you want to call yourself! People really beat themselves unnecessarily over fitting into neat little boxes; somehow convinced that if they step out, they'll get a limb smashed by a conveyor belt. There are plenty of lesbians with boyfriends, gays with gals, and everything in between.
Much of sexual preferences are a "phase" -- it doesn't make what you're feeling invalid as the wording "just a phase" makes it sound. Rather, it's because sexual preferences, desires, etc are constantly changing and evolving, and sometimes it can be hard to select a new label to head every one off at the pass.
So, pick a label, any label. Or, ditch them altogether and go with liking who you like. The choice is entirely yours. :)
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