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"On a human and an emotional level, I find that the line is very thin between gay and straight and bisexual. To me it's all love."- Thea Gill

I guess if I was to describe how I feel about my sexuality, that would probaly be similar to what I would say. To some, being straight is who they are, it's the sort of lifestyle that they were raised to accept. I myself was raised with the concept that married couples, parents, and so on are supposed to be a man and a women. I personally now find this concept to be complete B.S., who says two people of the same sex can't get married or have children? I say they can!
In a recent post I said that whenever I think about my future I see myself with a man. But the longer I thought about it the more I realized that that's not 100% true. At times I can imagine myself with either a man or a woman, I guess you can say I could go both ways. For me, that's scary as hell. Why? Well, I guess I'm afraid of a number of things like how my parent's would react. Although I don't feel as though I need them to accept me, if they don't like who I am then why should I care?
The sad thing is where I live, I see homophobia on a daily basis, whether it's at school or even at home, it's always there. And I just hate when people say "That's gay", it is sooooooo anoying!
What do you think? Does anyone here feel the same way, if so why? Any responses are welcome. I would really like some input!

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Lauren [Smile]

[ 11-30-2007, 07:04 PM: Message edited by: LBelle22 ]

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I know how you feel. I am bisexual, but my primary attraction really is to women, and so, at some point in my life, it's almost definite that I'll end up in a long-term relationship with a woman. This is not a scary thing for me, in and of itself. In fact, it gives me warm and fuzzy feelings inside when I think about it. However, I do worry about how my extended family would react. My parents are pretty liberal and accepting, but my other relatives are a whole different story.

Over the summer, my cousin brought his girlfriend to our family reunion. It made me think about what would happen if I were to bring a girlfriend to a family get-together. I can't imagine that it would go well. I don't feel like I need to be out to my extended family at this point in my life (it would likely just cause unnessacary pain), but what about later? What about when I'm in a committed relationship and have kids with a woman? I don't think I could realistically keep that a secret. I love my family a lot, and I hate the idea that my relationship with them could be ruined because of my orientation. It's scary.

Homophobia is annoying. It also kind of frightens me. I mean, I hear how casual people are about using hate speech, and I wonder if they'd be just as casual about worse things. It just doesn't really make me feel very safe.

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