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Heya! Just wondering... Do you have to be attracted to woman you know personally to know your orientation? Because i havn't really found the right girl for me yet... but i know for a fact that i am attracted to girls, because i have had big crushes on female actors ( i have got a crush on one at the moment lol) [Wink] i am a girl too, and i am comfortable to say that i am bisexual [Smile] but some people think that crushes on actors don't 'count', and you only know when you are attracted to the same-sex when you like someone you know personally. i don't agree with this, because i know that what i feel, when i have a crush on a woman, is real [Smile] what do you all think? sorry for the long post lol [Roll Eyes]
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I think that, to properly determine your sexual orientation, you'd need to know how you'd feel about crushing on women that are "in your range." I hate to say that, but fantasizing about women that you'll realistically never be with (unless you're a celebrity yourself, in which case I apologize) doesn't give you a clear idea of how you'd react in a real situation. I know that I always thought of myself as straight until I met the girl of my dreams, and knew right away that "just friends" wouldn't be enough. Look around your LGBT community for chances to meet other girls that you could have a real relationship with.


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i admire you for saying that u dont agree with that and that you know for sure what you like and how u feel...

on the otherside i would like you to know that cassieopiea makes a good point...

im 15 and ive recently realized that im bisexual (or gay i still dont know for sure)... i had crushes on female actresses but i didnt though it was real... i just thought that was normal for straight girls...

ive developed reallyy strong feelings for one of my best friends and that is when i realized that i WAS Bi... maybe it does make a difference if you know that girl-crush personally, i havent told anyone nothing yet for fear of rejection and for fear of loosing their friendship or support.

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