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First of all I think about my sexuality 24/7 I'm pretty sure I'm gay if not Bi but definatley not strait!

Plus my friends are starting to catch on a bit. Their always saying "You need a man" and asking me if I'm gay and it's stressing me out. And I havent spoken to my best friend for about 3 months because I feel so attracted to her!

And to top it off. I can't tell anyone; I've moved to an arabic country (Where homosexualiy is frowned apon) I don't know to tell my parents I know they'd understand because my Dad's bro came out. But my brother...Homofobic.

I know this is a long post but phew I needed to express this. I was just wondering if anyone had any advice for me. I might lose it with all this stress!

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Have you read through our Gaydar section on the main site? I think these articles will be particularly helpful:
The Bees and...the Bees: A Homosexuality and Bisexuality Primer
Don't Let the Door Hit You on the Way Out

A couple of quick notes:
1. You are by no means alone. If you poke around the forums you'll find many other people who are also trying to figure their out their sexualities. Try not to stress too much -- a label is only as important as you want it to be.

2. Is it possible to come out to your parents and ask them not to mention it to your brother until you're ready? What about some friends from where you used to live? It's always nice to have some supportive people to talk to when we're working stuff out but it can certainly be done without a huge community.

I would have girls regard themselves not as adjectives but as nouns. --Elizabeth Cady Stanton

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oks first off i think you should first talk to the person who u think would take this better. then they could help you decide how to tell others and so its not all just on you. and idk if u are close to your brother or like the siblings that always fight. but if you think he will take it bad then dont just tell him quite yet. i think its better for you to gradually let people know and not just suddenly burst out and say it.

Live life to the fullest, laugh as much as u can, cry if u need to, and enjoy the people you love as long as forever.

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