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Jhasil
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Hi everyone,
I'm sitting here typing, completely girl (my biological sex)...at any time when I'm communicating with anyone I'm completely female. But...when I am in my own head daydreaming I almost always become male. A pretty girly-boy, but a boy nonetheless. Almost a completely different personality from my exterior femaleness but I think this is done to protect preconceived notions of my gender identity. I didn't identify boy at all until I was 20 or so...so what's going on? Am I genderqueer if I can't bring forth boyness (yet) outside of my own head? I've been confused for so long now I just want to gather thoughts other than my own.

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Heather
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Thing is, genderqueer is a fairly creative identifier, not any sort of psychological, medical or psychosocial classification where, you know, we can look at some sort of official checklist and see if your checked boxes put you in the group. [Wink]

Ultimately, it's about how you do or don't want to identify, to or for yourself, and/or to others.

So, really, the question boils down to this: how do you WANT to identify, and what feels most comfortable or true for you right now?

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Caomhan Andriu
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ok....
im really sorry, but im about to ask a question that may make me seem sorta stupid, but it is relevant!

what is genderqueer?

i have soooo much to learn......

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-Jill
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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Genderqueer

Wikipedia has a basic rundown for you. [Smile]

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SoupChef
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Gender is fluid (in my opinion), and by identifying as genderqueer, people basically recognize their own gender as being ambiguous - not entirely male or female, or both, or neither. Nobody can tell you what your identity is - only you can figure that out.
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