Heres the thing: I discovered about three years ago(im 16)that im bi..and have come out to my closest friends..they know im bi and are comfortable with it..but the problem is..telling my parents...you see..they are usually very open minded ppl but they heard recently about a friend of mine who came out and they laughed..then they said that shes too young(same age as me)to know yet whether shes gay or not..I had been revvin myself up to come out to them until this incident..now im nervous that if i tell them they will laugh at me too..and although i know they mean no harm,just the vision of them laughing at me is enough to set me to tears.They've been gettin suspicious lately because I've been almost been caught in the act of kissing another girl several times...and their suspiciousness seems unaccepting..almost as though they are warning me without speaking that I better not be bi...I'm 100% sure I am bi and not just 'curious' as they call it.How do I explain to them what I feel?and how do i do it without causing them to laugh?surely after hearing about my friend coming out,they will think I am just following a trend of some sort..Im really scared to say anything and its becoming harder and arder to keep my sexuality a secret from them.Please help!
-------------------- ROCK LOBSTER!!!! I love you Sonic :) Posts: 50 | From: Ireland | Registered: Mar 2007
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Honestly if your scared to tell them your bi face to face why not try writing a letter? You can make it seem perfect, explain to them how long you've known, how much you love them and hope they will accept you. Than you can hand it to them and they can read it without you around and have time to think about it before talking to you about it.
You are going to feel so much better when you dont have to hide who you are to your parents. You got to tell them. Just think telling them now will be easier than telling them 10 years from now when your moving in with your partner (guy or girl).
"Peace is not the absence of war; it is a virtue; a state of mind; a disposition for benevolence; confidence; and justice." -Spinoza Posts: 154 | From: Seattle, WA | Registered: Jan 2007
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One good talking point with this, too, when the whole "you're too young to know" thing comes up, is to initiate conversation about at what age someone feels a person can know ANY orientation.
In other words, would you also be too young to know you're heterosexual? if not, then what is the difference between knowing that orientation or any other?
You can also open this conversation by telling them that you were scared and hurt by them laughing off your friends orientation.
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