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sweetypie21
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If you ask anyone about me, they will tell you i am this boy crazy perverted person. Well the truth is that i like guys, but i also think i like girls to. I have looked at girls and like "cheaked them out" but with Homophobic family and friends i have always told myself " you cant be gay" about 2 months ago at a party a girl that i knew was lesbian showed up, and i knew that i wanted to experiment . I did, and after it happend i was scared so i just told myself i did it just because i was drunk. Then about a month later one of my friends whom i have known forever and is Bi i told about what had happend that night. She told me " i have always known you were gay" and we started kissing. since then we have gotten closer, And things have gone past kissing. I like being with her, and when im not with her i miss her and think about her. I still am attracted to guys very much though. Things are so hard, and knowing that if anyone finds out, they would all hate me does not help. Do you think i am really Bisexual? the friend that i have been fooling around with is not the first person to tell me, a girl that i met a year ago whom is gay i told about this and she told me " i could tell you were gay" Can Homosexual people really tell if someone else is gay? What should i do about everything?
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-Jill
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If you're attracted to both men and women, which it sounds like you are, bisexual is usually an appropriate label. Not that you need to label yourself; sexuality is fluid and can change over time so if you don't want to try to nail yourself down with a label that just fine.

These articles go into more detail about sexual orientation and might answer a few questions for you:
The Bees and...the Bees: A Homosexuality and Bisexuality Primer
Bi the Dozen: A Bisexuality Quiz

And no, queers cannot automatically recognize fellow queers. [Smile] At best, our friends can see things we can't because they aren't so close to the situation.

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Hijol
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Yes, I think you are a bisexual...since you like girls and guys sexually, and you've also...am I correct...done girls, too?

Have you ever done a guy? In my opinion, you are a bisexual, I'm sorry. You can end up turning heterosexual, and gradually disliking girls sexually, I don't know, lol. But it's fine to be a bi, it's a part of who you are.

If you sexually like a girl and a guy, and has had sex with BOTH genders, I would consider you a bi.

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sweetypie21
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yea i guess i am bi then, i dont know it scares to think that i am sometimes. Yes i have had sex with both girls and guys, more with guys but then again this attraction to females is jsu comming out.
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logic_grrl
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If you sexually like a girl and a guy, and has had sex with BOTH genders, I would consider you a bi.

You know, there's no need for people to have had sex with anyone at all before they can know what their orientation is.

It's not like we expect people to "try both" before allowing them to identify as gay/lesbian or straight, after all.

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sweetypie21
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yea i understand that, but i also knwo that i have in the the back of my head liked girls for a long time well atleast been attracted to them.
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Hijol
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Loggic Girl, true enough. I'm just saying that since she actually liked to bang both genders, it is related to bisexuality.

Sweetypie, do you also love your boyfriend very much? If you actually dislike guys, you might a be a straight out lesbian. If you like both guys and girls (sexually), then of course I would consider that as a bisexual. But hey, it's all good. [Smile]

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sweetypie21
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i dont currently have a bf, umm i am attracted to guys and i do mess around with both sexes. But i dont know girls just make me feel more comfortable and plus hey they kiss better and know what i want more.
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Hijol
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Then most likely you're a bi.

Do you REALLY like guys too? Or do you just like girls? I know some people who just like men (they are men) but they say they like girls. They just don't want to admit that they're homosexual or anything. I'm just saying...i'm not referring you as a lesbian or anything. Most chances, you are a bi.

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Heather
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(Is there a reason you're grilling sweetypie21, Hijol? Not sure if that's what you intend, but it's reading that way at this point.)

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Hijol
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Oh no, of course not. I would never intend to "grill" sweetypie. I'm just trying to help her, and I MAY not be helping her at all, but I'm actually trying to help.

From your definition, do you define grill as...disliking someone, or staring at them in a hate-ish way, or is it something else.

I don't mean anything bad. I'll read what I wrote.

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danda
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i agree with heather ... hijol u seem like u want to put a label in sweetypie..

i have accepted myself as bi recently (havent come out to anyone i know personally yet)
but u dont have to label yourself sweetypie...
i have learned in this site that people shouldnt obsses over labels and that if u r bi you can like one gender more than the other at times and those kinds of things...

as i have heard here: sexuality is fluid

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