Ok...so like A month-month and a half ago...Me and this guy I was in love with broke up.
He had abandoned me for three weeks to stay with his cousin and one of their friends. He had a cush on the friend.
Well I didn't hear from him for 18 days and hadn't seen him in a month+. When he gets back, he says that he is gay. It really hurt. Alot. The guy I was in love with, was now taking back everything about being in love with me, all because I was a girl. I also don't want you to get the wrong Idea. I wasn't bitter because he was gay, that wasn't what upset me. According to him I was his "last ditch effort" at being into girls. In my opinion you don't jeopardize your best friends feelings like that if you really care about them. I was crushed.
Of course things weren't quite the same. It was too painful for me. Well a week into the new school year he calls and aparently he's bi again, and wants to date me. I said no. I told him he had had his chance and had blown it. I wasn't going through that all again.
His explanation was that he had been confused becuase he spent so much time around the boy that he had a crush on.
I don't talk to my ex anymore, not for the whole break up thing, the reason why I have ceased contact with him is another story altogether that holds no relevance to this particular issue.
Why I am posting is I'm wanting some peoples opinions.
My parents and family members feel that he is in fact gay.
While a few of my friends maintain that they thought he was confused.
I want to know what you people feel the case is.
Is it common for confusion such as this?
Also it is notable, that he only ever talked about other boys. I was the only girl he talked about being attractive. He had never had a heterosexual sex dream in his life. It was always boys.
I just....I want to know what other people think. I'm hoping someone has been through a similar situation and can give me some insight so that I can try to heal and move on from this painful time in my life.
Regardless of whether he's bi, gay, straight, crooked, whatever, you don't want to date him, and that's enough of a reason not to. I'm not sure if your friends are telling you he's confused in order for you guys to get together, but if they are, too bad for them.
But yes, this sort of confusion is very normal when someone's figuring out "what" they are, and I'm sorry you had to get caught in the crossfire.
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