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InKeepingSecrets
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so yeah. i'm bi. i've liked this girl for quite a while now. she's a lesbian. but i'm not her "type". i'm not quite sure what is though. she's dated girls like me times before. we hang out a lot and she really wants a relationship, just not with me.. well as of last night she has a girlfriend which is cool. i mean go her. it makes her happy so that makes me happy i guess. but she's not one to just jump into a full relationship and all. she usually takes it slow. but she's been "dating" this girl for like 24 hours and they're all over eachother already. well we all hung out tonight and they were kinda just sittin there together mindin their own business, kissin and stuff. it hurts so bad to see her do that. even though we have nothing but a half hearted friendship between us. it was really bad. i was just wondering if anyone else has been through this. if so how did you guys handle it? i'm a pretty emotional person and this just kills me.

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Heather
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In any of our lives, it's pretty unlikely we'll NOT have a time where we're attracted to someone who isn't attracted to us back. Or, where the type of relationship you want with someone isn't the type they want with you.

This is the case no matter your (or their) orientation.

Never fun, no mater what, but it'll happen to everyone.

And now and then, we meet someone who isn't in our pattern, with whom we break all our "rules." So, she's with someone who she's behaving differently with. Happens. Again, not fun when YOU want to be that person, but it's how it goes.

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InKeepingSecrets
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thanks... it just hurts soo bad.
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Ceri
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Like Miz Scarlet said it'll happen to everyone. It hurts but there isn't much you can do about it. Try taking your mind of it. Meditating helps me but it might not work for you. Do you have other friends? Start hanging out more with them just to give yourself something else to focus on. Remember that life will go on and that there are many more wonderful people out there who you haven't met yet, and don't worry you'll probably have plenty of chances for relationships in the future.

*hugs* Trust me, it will get better, not always right away but eventually. Feel better.

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InKeepingSecrets
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thanks guys. you're awesome.
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