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helpimconfuzzled
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well, i have just been told by a girl from my school that there is a rumour going around that I'm gay. she says that her friend overheard someone talking about. so she came to me to ask me. I talked to friends about it and they say it was none of them and I trust them. they are too good a bunch of friends. This girl kept asking and I eventually denied it. I feel bad for doing this but I go to an all girls school and they are quite "ooo you must be in love with me if your gay", so I was worried about being "gay-bashed". I feel really paranoid and upset because everywhere in school there could be someone talking about me. I dont know what to do. I know i havent asked a question but I was wondering if anyone had any comments?
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That happened to me, when I "came out".
I told my best friend, who I totally trust, and he said I was brave for telling him and he accepted me and everything.
Then he turned around and told everyone, which made me feel awful.
Well, for a week or two every girl was avoiding me and making fun of me, and it really sucked.
Yeah, I don't think this world will ever be rid of homophobics, as it will never be rid of racists; most likely.
In high school, this stuff happens, but people get over it. No one at my school cares anymore, but it helped me to go talk to my guidance counsellor when I was being picked on.
You should have a guidance counsellor at your school, and it's completely confidential. All I did was go there and talk. She didn't really ask me questions or anything, I just talked. And it felt good to get stuff off my chest.
I dunno, that's a suggestion, since I tried reasoning with kids, but the dullards see no reason.
They'll grow out of the immaturity eventually, and just hang in there and try to ignore them. It makes things worse to insult them back.

Anyway, I hope I helped. [Smile]
Good luck with school and everything, and just ignore the ignorant creeps.

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If you feel that you are being harassed, take it to school officials. Otherwise, my advice is to be like a duck and just let it roll off your back. Honestly, if these people are so weird about it, they're not worth your time or energy.

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Thanks to both of you, none of my friends have told anyone. i have yet to talk to one of them but i hope she didnt say anything. I'm kind of a school counsillor myself. me anda few of my friends and other kids are a group of people called mediators and we help the lower school with problems, no-one ever comes but we have the training and things. I think there are mentors and thinga but i dont feel comfortable talking to them as im really paranoid that everyone will know if i mention it. so thats why i come here to scarleteen. Me and my best friend are trying to find a gay youth club for support and meeting other gay people but i havent found anything yet.
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you should check out the support group thread on bullying that i started. i don't know how to link it in this post, sorry. i had a similar experiance in middle school that got very extreme. best of luck with this, and i hope that you have people who are supportive of you.

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thanks Ill check it out [Smile]
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I'm not sure where in the UK you're located but this article might help point you to an organization near you: http://uk.gay.com/article/4506 It's set up a bit awkwardly so be sure you look at all three pages.

If it doesn't help and you're comfortable with it, post a more specific location and I'll see what I can find.

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Thanks for that, ill have a look for one close to me over the weekend. [Smile]
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