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BonnieWright13
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I was wondering, if I have two gay uncles, a lesbian aunt, and a lesbian cousin, could this mean it can sort of be passed down? I thought I was a bisexual, but now I'm just all lost and confused. I keep getting scared that I'm a lesbian. (I think Lesbian people are awesome, I just don't want to be one.) And now I'm so terrified. So could it be in the blood?

By the way, awesome new colors and stuff on the board.

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kitka
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No. It is not a genetic condition.

http://scarleteen.com/gaydar/basics.html

Homosexuality isn't genetic - it isn't "in" your blood. Even if it was, homosexual people don't replicate their genetic code by having procreative sex. Homosexuality's a sociological and psychological difference that's perfectly normal.

(I think Lesbian people are awesome, I just don't want to be one.)

It's not a question of "wanting" to be anything -women who identify as lesbian do so because those desires have been in them since early adolescence - or perhaps even earlier. The why and how isn't so important. What matters is that people are comfortable with themselves and their orientation.

It's great that you're accepting of people with other orientations... but a comment like that does sound kinda harsh.

You might want to talk to your aunt or cousin about the feelings you're having... they almost certainly had the same feelings when they were younger, too. From your previous posts, it sounds like you've had a couple of same-sex interests. That's normal at your age and it doesn't necessarily mean you're a lesbian or bisexual. Bottom line, you shouldn't be "scared" of your orientation.

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BonnieWright13
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Thanks. I wasn't trying to sound harsh, I just sorta got hit with all of this and I'm super confused. But thanks for your help.
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LetMeBeHappy
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i know when i first thought i was bi, i was bit bit scared and confused with all sorts of thoughts buzzing through my mind. but then i just finally sorted my self out and well asked myself and thought about it. i know know for sure. I'm not too sure how...well um do u have any crushes or are you attracted to any females? that might make it a bit easier to help you.

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