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Jmac
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People often think that I am gay just because of the way that my voice sounds. It sounds like a gay mans voice sounds, but im pretty sure i am straight. I am getting really tired of people calling me gay everyday because it really hurts my feelings and makes me almost hate that person. Is there anything that i could do to convince these people that I am not gay. Its not like I can change the way i sound. Is there anything I can do??

Why do people even discriminate against gays, its not like they choose to be gay.If it is because the bible says that it is wrong, these people need to think. God Loves everyone the same and he made gay people the same as everyone else.

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You know, gay men don't sound any one way. So, its sounds to me like you feel prettys stronglly about equality for those of us who are queer, and that rocks. But realize, too, that even saying something like that really reinforces sterotypes. Same goes with feeling insulted for being called gay.

And really, that's the answer to people giving you grief about this: just tell them that gay men sound as different as anyone else, and your voice is no more related to your orientation than their catty namecalling is theirs.

People will lay off in time, but it's going to stop faster if you stop letting it upset you. After all, if you're down with everyone no matter their orientation, then being thought any given orientation, no matter which, shouldn't be insulting. [Smile]

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xxxCandycornxXx
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Its true that the name-calling will wear off, and theres nothing to be ashamed of about your voive and everything...but if you are in High School (which I suppose you are, cause people after HS arent as big on name-calling) then theeey're probly gonna pick on you. Ummm...I guess I dont have much practical advice on how to get them to stop...buuut... well, Girl on girl porn and football/beer parties have to be the most un-gay things ever created, soooo...um... have beer/chips/football parties and talk about how twins are sexy? XD

I think better advice would be this: just ignore them. Find good freinds who dont care what you sound like or what your orientation is even if you were gay, or anything. Real friends like you no matter what anyone else says, so just stick with your freinds. If youve got freinds who cares if people say your gay? And then find a hot gf and flaunt her around everyone who called you gay and be like "yoouu caaaant have her hahahaa"

i am obviously really mature =P

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xxxCandycornxXx
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Or you could just go with the gay steriotype thing, dress metro-sexually, hang out with all the popular girls, go to hot parties...like in that episode of King of the Hill! everyone loves gay guys now-a-days, its like a fashion trend! maybe someone will even pay you to decorate their house =P


Um, I'm not sure if I am, but I'm sorry if I offend anyone, it seems to me like everyone is keen on being PC here, but I'm very satyrical and like to play off steriotypes =P just dont take me seriously

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quote:
Originally posted by xxxCandycornxXx:
Um, I'm not sure if I am, but I'm sorry if I offend anyone, it seems to me like everyone is keen on being PC here, but I'm very satyrical and like to play off steriotypes =P just dont take me seriously

Actually many of your replies aren't very helpful. Most people come here looking for genuine answers and help with a problem they are having. Jokes and sarcasm are neither compassionate or useful and thus aren't appropriate.

If you have something to say that you think will benefit another user by all means post it but there's no need to post just for the sake of firing off a flip comment.

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I was just trying to make light of the situation, you cant always be frowning about everything bad that happens, like that squirrel says "Life is too important to be taken seriously"

anyway thats how I deal with my problems, I could probably even laugh about being molested...in fact I have XD I think its a healthy philosophy, It'd make me feel really uncomfortable if someone gave me one of those serious, sympathetic looks about it, than if they joked about it a bit. Though if they were really rude and unempathetic it might be irritating, so again, I'm really sorry if I came off that way...

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You might be okay with making jokes about your situation or problems, but please understand that many others are not. Respect and compassion for all our users are key at Scarleteen, so we ask that unless you have something genuinely useful to add to a conversation, that you refrain from posting.

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I don't feel like he was insulting gay people. Regardless of someones sexuality I think anyone would be offended if their mistaken for some thing their not. If bullying is added then its more emotions talking so the words would come out wrong.

Honestly I think you should ignore them. Tell them your voice is just soft and whether or not your gay, which your not, doesn't involve them. If you believe your gay you'll know and they'll know when you start to date. But just insist your not. If they dont believe you play it of like "whatever man" and such.

Other than that I don't see much else...

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