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i am so confused about what to do i want to come out of the closet but i dont know how to i mean i live with very christian ppl and i just dont know how to break it to them i need help and ideas ok plz help me!!!
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Is it your family or everyone in your surroundings who are very Christian?

would you forgive me, love, if I danced in your shower?

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I know how you feel, especially since I live n the bible belt and I've just started coming out myself.But tell the 1st person you trust, like a close friend. You'll feel so much better afterwards, trust me.Secrets hurt.
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I'm gonna recommend [u]Coming Out to Parents[/u] by Mary V. Borhek to you. Look it up on Amazon or your local bookstore. There is a lot of information that you can apply anywhere to anyone who is important to you, not just your parents. It talked about a lot of things that I might not have considered. Actually though, my mom found my copy. I don't suppose that's how it was supposed to work, but my mom is pretty liberal and very loving to begin, so she didn't have a problem with it. I always feel bad in situations like this because for me it was relatively painless. I know for some people it is a very painful event, and I wish I had more experience to share.
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I had an easy time coming out too, but I've spent some time in workshops. The main thing we were told is that coming out is a very personal thing. Do it when you're ready. But remember it's a tricky process too. If you think it will completely freak your parents, you may want to wait until you're financially independent.
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Check out this great article on coming out right here!

You were never no locomotive, Sunflower, you were a sunflower!
-Allen Ginsberg

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