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Hey everyone, I'm new here. Thought I'd give this a shot and if someone ends up reading this.. well, thank you. Ok, so here's my problem..

I've had a crush on this girl ever since September. Just some girl I've admired from afar for months in school! [I'm 19 by the way]. Finally, after 9 months, we're actually friends now. I just started hanging out with her.. you know.. trying to get to know each other and whatever. We saw two movies together and we had lunch together at Wendy's.. you know.. just the typical hanging out thing. One day in my room, I actually came out to her and I asked her, "Oh, how about you.. are you straight?" she actually said that she's "bi-curious" and I said something.. "ohh.. hahah.. it's just kinda funny 'cause.. you're straight, but confused.." and she agreed and laughed along with me. So yea, I don't know whether she was being serious or not. Recently though, I just found out that my best friend [a guy] likes her too. But damn it, I saw her first! It's sad.. 'cause the fact that he's a guy.. he actually has a better chance with her. My guy friend even knows that I liked her wayyy, wayy in the beginning. So right now, I don't know what to do. I really, really like this girl and.. yea. Oh yea, she's actually going through some rough times now 'cause she just recently broke up with her bf since she found out that he was cheating on her with two other girls. So yea, it's really confusing.. what do you guys think I should do? If anyone DID read this.. THANK YOU! and I would really appreciate any advice you can give me..
thanks again! =)

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Sounds to me like shince she's just had a rough breakup, she needs time on her own right now when it comes to dating, is what.

Times of crisis or healing aren't really times not only to date someone new, but all the more so when it comes to dating someone of a gender one never has before.

So, maybe you AND your male friend can give her the time she needs right now, sans sex or dating.

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I've actually been in a very similar situation, only with the genders reversed. The girl got the guy, and I talked to my psychiatrist about increasing my anti-depressant dosage.

If you are brave, I would recommend talking about this with the guyfriend first. Does he know about her break up, and if he does will that affect what he does? Giving her some time to regain her composure can't hurt.

Also, just because your friend is a guy doesn't necessarily mean he has a better chance (although it probably does). This girl may not like him at all, one never knows.

I do understand how frustrating this can be, and I hope it all turns out ok.

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Miz Scarlet and Gaffer, thanks for your help and if anything happens.. I'll keep you posted. Thanks again!
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