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JadeUnicorn
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has anybody ever had a problem with your straight friends telling you that they have a crush on you?
I've got plenty of straight friends and they all know that I'm a lesbian. but I find that more and more of my "straight" friends are telling me that they have a crush on me and want to date me.
so far, I've had 4 "straight" girls tell me that they like me. I was just wondering if its ever happened to anybody else.

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lemming
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Maybe your friends see you as someone who's open enough and confident enough about her sexuality that they can talk to you about the feelings that they're having. Maybe that openness leads them to confide in you about their own sexuality. Maybe your "straight" friends are less straight than you assume they are.

Maybe you're really attractive, or have a winning personality, or both. Maybe you're just a great friend who they feel comfortable with, and they don't know anyone like you.

Maybe one or more of these reasons is what's leading to your current situation.

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DrQuack5
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This happens to me a surprising amount. Although when I like a girl who isn't into girls, my friends always tell me that I should turn her gay.

I thought it was kind of an odd occurence, too.


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JadeUnicorn
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If I had a bigger ego I would take all that lemming said to my head. lol. but honestly, lemming, you could be right. I am very open and honest and I do tell people what I think when I think it. so I do believe that these girls become attracted to me because of my honesty, confindence, good looks, and my charms. lol.
DrQuack5, I've been told the same thing before. and it usually works. lol.

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lemming
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Hey, you sound like a great person and a great friend to me. Take it easy. Honesty will get you everywhere ;]
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Heather
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Just FYI, might be worth thinking about how we'd look at this were the shoe on the other foot (even though I'm aware some of this discussion is tongue-in-cheek):

"When I like a girl who isn't into boys, my friends always tell me that I should turn her straight. "

"I've been told the same thing before. and it usually works."

See what I'm saying? Not so pretty the other way round. So please do be aware that while sexuality is, in some respects, fluid, not only is it unlikely any of us -- no matter how amazing our sexual prowess or how stellar our personalities -- can "switch" someone's orientation, it's fairly disrespectful to suggest that we can. And being in and out of GLBT communities for close to a couple decades, I know full well how much most of us dislike it when stright people say they can "switch" us.


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nappyafrochik
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that's happened admittedly by somechicks to me a few times, and some chisk that never admitted it, but others could DEFINITELY see it. including me. i dunno what it is. maybe they always had this view of homosexuality and then they finally meet one and it opens a whole new world (wow i feel liek aladdin)and kinda broadened their horizons, and find that a person is attractive for who they are. or something....i hope i was of help.

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