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i hope this doesnt count as double posting because i did say something about it in my own thread in village people, but since people dont respond or read threads there as much..and it fits here.and if it is wrong then please delete/close.
this guy friend i have just told me he was gay. i havent exactly been close to him lately and now..i have nothing against homosexual or bisexual people, ive known them and stuff before, but.. what do i say?!? what should i tell him?!? im not sure what to do. do i act as if it didnt happen? then he might WANT to talk about it. do i tell him im there for him? but it doesnt help that we havent even been that close lately. hes not totally out, so far only like 3 people know. his parents dont. im really confused. if you ever had this happen what did you do? does anyone have advice? thanks again and sorry if its counts as double, i just wanted an answer and sometimes questions in village arent really answered. sorry if its wrong!

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There's no one thing you're "supposed" to say, but one possible response (for example) might be to say that you're glad he felt able to tell you.

That lets him know in a simple way that it's okay with you, and then it's up to him whether he wants to talk more about it.

And remember, he's just the same guy he was before he told you. You two found stuff to talk about then, I'm sure you'll find stuff to talk about now .

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Maybe you two can go guy shopping together. I do that with some of my guy friends (or bi girl friends) and it's a blast everytime.

Above all, I would just advise that you let him know that you support him and respect him.

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If you're not sure if he wants to talk about it, don't bring it up. If he does, he'll bring it up. Also, be respectful of who he's out to- bringing up his homosexuality in front of his parents, for example, would NOT be the right thing to do.
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