im bi but everyone i know thinks im strait i just moved into a new town and my new friend is bi and i dont know how to come out of the closet without looking like im just copying her also i just got the greatest boyfriend who just went into the airforce and i told everyone that im strait im in desprate need of help because i finally admited to myself that im not as strait as i portray it to my new friends and my old HELP!
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Let's think about it this way: if you were heterosexual, and had a heterosexual friend, would you be fearful of telling them that because they'd think you were "copying them?" Nah. Same goes here, love. You are what you are what you are.
You also get to decide when and to whom you want to come out. It's not a rush, and nno one is going to hold it against you for not coming out earlier than you do because we've all been there.
I've noticed that there is an ideal way to come out with something like this. maybe if you reveal yourself in a certain way, things will be easier for everyone.
maybe, instead of saying "oh, i just wanted to say that i think I'm bi too."
i'd like to say "I'm pretty sure i'm bi and i've known for a while now. I didnt' say aything before because i was a little embarrassed"
and a girl once told me to never forget to say that you were too embarrassed to say anything before. When you do say this it reminds them, especially GLBT individuals, how it felt for them goign public. That way, there is very little chance that they might think you're announcing things for other reasons. Also, never forget to identify with other people's feelings and ideals before or after coming out. sometimes it's easy to forget that we're not the only souls who feel like we're struggling. You can gain friends and allys by letting them know you feel the same.
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