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sohuggable89
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Hey guys.. im 13, gonna be 14 in march, and my whole life i was brought up and expected to be perfect, though im far from it. I think i reaized that i was bi when i became attracted to my best friend. I think that was because i was hurt twice out of my two relationships i had with boyz, they just got my hopes up, used me, then left me confused and wondering to myself " what is wrong with me?"
My best friend is the most loving, caring, sweetest person ive ever met, and we are realy realy realy tight. i think i wanted to be bi because i know that girls are different than boys. that girls are more sensetive, loving, and caring. when/if i go out with a girl, i know i would take the time to find someone who is loving, caring,and has a good personality, and that is why i like girls. a girl's body is just something extra thats there, her heart is what i would be interested in. i wouldnt be in a relationship for sex or anything like that, i would be in it for the feeling you get when you love someone, and you know they love you.
i dont think i can tell my best friend that im bi, and its not because im embarassed, the grl knows absolutel everything about me. its because shes like my mom, sista, and bestfriend all in one, and i know shes not bi. i need to find someone! just to talk to.

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logic_grrl
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quote:
i know that girls are different than boys. that girls are more sensetive, loving, and caring.

Y'know, that's a pretty huge generalization, and at Scarleteen we try to avoid making generalizations about people on the basis of their gender.

I've known some pretty insensitive and uncaring girls in my time, and some very sensitive and caring boys.

If you decide you're sexually and emotionally attracted to girls, that's fine - but it doesn't have to mean believing that girls are somehow automatically better or nicer as people.


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sohuggable89
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yes that is true.. many girls are not very nice and sweet, but i wouldnt get involved with anybody other than someone sweet.

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alaska
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Hi Soha,

just as a sidenote: have you had a good look around our site yet?
We have a couple of articles that might help you a bit here, gal.
I'd recommend

The Bees and...the Bees - A Homosexuality and Bisexuality Primer

Bi the Dozen - A Bisexuality Quiz

Don't Let the Door Hit You on the Way Out (Or: How to Come Out of the Closet Without Tripping Over the Laundry)

You know, hon, take your time getting used to your feelings. There is no need to analyze them, no need to put a label on you (such as straight, bi, gay), unless you want to. There is no need to come out (yet) to anyone. Take your time.
Like logic said, relationships with girls aren't by default better or emotionally safer than relationships with boys. - You can get hurt nonetheless, simply because that's a risk in all relationships you ever enter.

If you're interested in getting in touch with other teens who are GLBT, there are plenty of youth groups all over the country where you can meet folks who have the same worries as you do. I'm not that good with ny geography and hence can't say what's closest to you, but a search at google on GLBT youth groups and new york should render plenty of results that can help you further.

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alaska
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voila: just one tiny link to get you started.
http://www.gaycenter.org/orgs/bigltny/index.htm

also check out the resources linked in our gaydar section:
http://www.scarleteen.com/gaydar/resources.html

and MizScarlets biosphere at technodyke
http://www.technodyke.com/aphrodyke/biosphere/default.asp

[This message has been edited by Alaska (edited 11-27-2002).]


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Izzybella6
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yes. It bothers me alot to hear that one sex woudl be more caring or sweet than another. I'm bisexual, myself and i don't see a darn difference in anything between the two sexes. If ANYTHING, girls tend to run their mouth more and get others in trouble because of broken secrets and rumors. On the other side of the game board, i could date one guy and then date his friend 2 months later and not hear a single thing about the previous guy. It's all in the person. But never think girls are sweeter, it's just not true. cheers!
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Dude_who_writes
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For future reference, let's try to avoid broad-sweeping generalizations. As a general rule, it's just against our policy here at Scarleteen, and it's most decidedly not good practice for real life.

Thanks

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Tim
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