I'm 14 and I think I'm bi. I mean I really like my bestfriend and I've told her this we've even kissed a few times. I really like her and I've even asked her out but my parents don't aprove in fact almost no one aproves but I really like my g/f. Is that ok? Should I be worried about becomming what my mom called me a dyke?
There is nothing wrong with any of the feelings you are having. As for your Mom you dropped a bomb on her and she just needs sometime to get used to it. When I told my mom she freaked out and we were fighting all the time now she is fine with it as long as I am happy. Just give your mom alittle while. It will all be ok
------------------ "We who are truley brave will never live in fear" The Rock ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Love may be blind, but jealousy sees too much. -- Unknown
You're in a rough spot because of your mom's attitude. Don't let it bug you too much. In time, your relationship MAY get better with her.
As to your question, I think you NEED to decide if you're ok being bi. I say this because you'll probably get at least 3 different answers to that question. The answer to that question will be based on that person's beliefs and ethics. Thus, there's no right or wrong answer.
If you haven't already, please consider joining your school's chapter (if available) of the GLBT Student Association.
*hugs DarkChild* being bi is okay. If it is who you are, then there is nothing wrong with it. I am 17/f/bi/collegekid, but I haven't come out to my parents yet. My friends know, and one of my significant others is 17/m/bi, so there is someone that knows where I'm coming from. My advice: Build a support system-- friends, teachers, GLBT alliance if your school has one (my HS didn't). Get people around that will be there to listen, just be there, and protect you if neccessary. If you live in a very homophobic area, proceed with caution.
Blessings and luck. ~Bahli Rainbowchilde~
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Hey everyone thanks for you advice. Bahli Rainbowchilde thanks espcailly that's really good adivce I'll definatly do that most of my friends already supoort me as well as my older sister and my little brothers in fact almost everyone except my parents supoorts my decision. Thanks ya'll you've been really helpful! Laters!!
hey darkchild, i think i can relate to your situation. i think im bi, well actually, now i know im bi, and i realy like my best friend, i want to kiss her more than anything, but i could never ever tell her that. im sayin dat it doesnt matta what anyone else thinks... even though it might hurt if you were rejected by your mom, she would still love you. and its ok to be a lesbian, if that is who you are. wow i cant beleive im giving someone advice, when i still have trouble acknowledging that im bi. but i know i am inside. ITS OK!!!
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i'm bi too. it's great and wonderful a nd nothing to be ashamed of. be proud of who you are. and by the way, dyke is a negative word applied to women who love other women, but it can be reclaimed in a positive way. i'm proud to be a dyke. Posts: 6 | Registered: Dec 2002
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quote:Originally posted by DarkChild14: I'm 14 and I think I'm bi. I mean I really like my bestfriend and I've told her this we've even kissed a few times. I really like her and I've even asked her out but my parents don't aprove in fact almost no one aproves but I really like my g/f. Is that ok? Should I be worried about becomming what my mom called me a dyke?
Hey Darkchild we have alot in common im 14 and im bi too. Well it sounds to me like you are but i dont know you.... answer this have you ever eatin a gurl out? if so than most likely your are bi. but if not and you dont think that you would ever do something like that then you probally arent. email me if you wanna talk.
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