After a month thought i'd update the situation.
Well I left him alone and didn't contact him after he left, he moved up to London. Then a couple of weeks after he got up there he phoned me just to talk to me I could tell he was missing me but he hadn't changed his mind he said he had to do it, as he wouldn't want to lie to me and would maybe have ended up resenting me which he wouldn't want to do as he thinks the world of me. He seemed keen to keep contact and asked if I wanted to call him in a few weeks I said no as you split up with me! I said you can call me if you want to not if you need to but if you want to.
Anyone a week and a half later he called again, a few days ago and we talked for ages. It was just as if we were still together, very teasing and flirty. And his attitude has shifted a bit, he says he misses me a lot, he wants to phone me all the time and that he was definitely was attracted to me, we did fall in love etc. He said when he finished with me that maybe it hadn't been attraction at the beginning, I think he wanted it to be black or white - gay or straight. But he realised that it isn't black or white so to speak. He says he thinks about women and men.
Hes also very eager for us to meet up again, this weekend but I told him its way too soon, and he was upset about this. He said he didn't want the day we meet up to be too far away. Although hes left me physically he doesn't seem to have left me emotionally. He seems more upset about it all than me. He says we should speak every week. He wants to talk about when we were together.
He doesn't say he wants me back at the moment, though his behaviour suggests it. But I can't continue to be there for him while its still hurting me, I need to move on. So i'm going to stop contact until I get over it now, as its like we're still together. This may be the point at which he realises hes made a mistake and he wants me back as I can't imagine how hes going to deal with it and yet hes the one who broke up. But I can't be there for him at the moment I need to help myself get over him. His phonecall this week has just taken me back to square one again, complete confusion. He says one thing and acts another way.
Deep down I know its more than sexuality its also an issue of commitment hes terrified to be with one person and take that responsibility. Well its time for me to focus on me for once and hes going to have to look elsewhere for love and understanding. I need someone more emotionally stable and not so terrified of everything. I love him still but I've learnt that love isn't the only thing you need for a realtionship that works its also the same outlook on life and what its about unfortunately ours are different - probably due to our backgrounds. He had a very unstable family background i've had a loving one, which I'm very lucky to have had.
I've wittered on a bit. But I've come so far since I last posted. I do want to be friends with him at some point in the future but I can't right now, and if I did stay friends with him now sharing everything as we always do, he'd never get back together with me anyway as he'd stil have me in everyway but sexually!! Which would suit him fine.
But its time to make me happy.
Thanks those of you who answered my post.