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MaraDaBabe
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Im bisexual, and probably have been for about a year now. I get made fun of constantly. Walking down the halls at school is hell, they scream dyke at me and whisper behind my back. I have even gotten in fights because of it. People dont seem to understand that Im not a lesbien, Im bisexual, although I dont take offense to being called a lesbien, it upsets me. There are a few other girls at my school who are bisexual, although they arent as open about it as i am, they are still open and dont get hasseled at all. Ive even fooled around with a couple of girls. One whom I kind of have liked for a long time now. One who used to be my best friend and now denys any acusations of us being together. And whom whom I would have considered one of my best friends but we got in fight, and she says I was on top of her and she couldnt get away, even thought thats not true, and the first time we did it for money, and then for my boyfriend(that she likes) and then for just us, seeing as no one was around. There is this one girl at my school who has done more with girls than I have yet insists she is not bisexual. My best friend will call me a dyke and stuff and say to others(right in front of me) thats its "****** disgusting" and then rub my crotch! i dont know what to do. Im not confused about my sexuality at all, I know someday I may want to be married to a woman and raise a family, Im just confused about the way others treat me.

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mnsouthpawjr
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Thanks for sharing your experience. I think you should strongly consider getting counseling to discover ways to make yourself happier and work on your apparent anger issues. If you haven't already, please also consider finding a GLBT Teen Association or Support group.


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confused333
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I know it's got to be so hard to deal with all this. Don't worry about what people say or think about you. I know it is hard, but hopefully soon it will all die down.

Your best friend, doesn't sound like a good friend to me though.

Seriously, you are a strong person to be able to take this and I agree with mnsouthpawjr about getting into a support group.

I wish you the best of luck.

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MaraDaBabe
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Umm.. I wasnt aware that I had any anger issues. and who ever said I wasnt happy?


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Heather
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Sounds to me, Mara, like the issue isn't you, but the hostility and anger you're being hit with from OTHERS.

Does your school have a gay.stright alliance or a GLBT group? if not, sounds like one is in order. if it's something you'd be interested in starting there, I'd be glad to pull up some resources for you.

After all, if this is how you're treated, chances are other non-hetero teens are getting the same treatment, and that's no good for anyone. To boot, if your ex-friend is sexually harassing you in school, that needs to STOP.

I also should note that I saw a very good canadian fil;m recently that touched on some of the things you're dealing with with your former friend/partner, called Lost and Delirious. Not to give anything away, but I'd say it could have ended less tragically, but it was an interesting and well-done exploration of these sorts of situations.

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PutMyLoveInABox
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You need to do something FAST. I suggest talking to your guidance cpounselor or parent/guardian immediately. If something doesn't stop what is going on- you should transfer schools. What is going on isn't right and it must STOP before things get out of hand. stay away from the bi***es who used to be your friends, or maybe you still think of them as friends but treeat you like crap.

Good luck hun!

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cumquat
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hello...
I'm also bisexual but it hasn't been a problem for me because my friends are very supporting (comsidering some of them are gay or lesbian, and I'm a drama bum, this isn't surpising) But I also keep it to my friends or peopel in the theatre group, mostly because these are the only people I share things with anyhow. But this summer I was at a summer camp sort of thing for artists and everyone knew there, and i really like the freedom of that.
It's awful that you're getting treated thisway by people that consoder themselves your friend. The suggestion of joing a Gay-Straight Alliance at your school or in your community (if possible) could be a wonderful idea. That way you'll be surrounded by people that understand your choice and are supporting, instead of acting immaturely and rude towards you.

Good luck with everything.

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