For three years I have identified as lesbian. Of course I realize that I am young (15) and am still experimenting with my sexuality... But it was an odd change for me when I suddenly found myself attracted to ::gasp!:: a guy! I'm now toying with the fact that I may be bisexual. Goodness, identity is so confusing! Maybe I just shouldn't put boundaries on the people I can love... If anyone asks what I am I can say, "open!". Has anyone ever been in the same boat?
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Oh, for sure, Mary. Unfortunately, everyone is very label conscious, and if you can't be properly and easily quantified, it makes people very, very nervous.
For me, personally, it was quite frustrating...in college, there were a few women i liked, but they identified as gay, and made it quite clear that they thought bi-sexuality was "fence-sitting." Because I had dated men up to that point, they weren't game for someone who wanted to "experiment." Of course, I made the argument that ALL sexuality involves some form of experimentation, but that didn't go over well, and they told me I was naive. Too bad, because I think they missed out
So, don't get too caught up in labels - the important thing is to consider each person as an individual, and go from there. If you dig the boy - go for it!
[This message has been edited by Lisa D (edited 06-07-2002).]
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