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I was just wondering, when you came out to your friends did they start acting different towards you? mine did. we all use to be really close and joked about everything, but then when I came out as a lesbian they sort of backed off. I know that some of it had to with them being afraid that I was going to hit on them. but even now, a year later, they won't make some of the same comments that they did when they all thought I was straight. don't know...

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My normally talkative landlord was awfully quiet when he unexpectedly dropped in to fix something and found me wearing a skirt. Apparently my good friends back home don't really care, but the not-so-good ones don't want to associate with me when I'm wearing lipstick.

Here in Buffalo, I've never been out in a skirt, but nobody seems repelled by lipstick. I haven't disclosed my orientation, so they might think I'm gay, but it doesn't seem to bother them.

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My friends didn't really change at all. I was very lucky to be surrounded by completely brilliant and non-judgemental people, and things were easier because we joked anout gay things as well as straight. Sometimes people aren't really sure how to take the news that you're gay. Maybe if you could talk to one or two about how you feel you could get to the bottom of what they're feeling. Maybe they're just not sure about what you would take offense to or something if they're joking around. Try and talk it out and see what happens. Also, you might have to recognise that these friendships aren't right if your friends cannot accept you for who you are.
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My friends were cool with it when I came out to them as a lesbian. But that probably has something to do with the fact that the cast majority of my friends are male. My few female friends though won't even consider accepting it. They still talk to me and stuff but they're always trying to set me up with guys, it's kind of pathetic really.
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I think most of my friends expected it. If anything, it made us closer because I could share that part of my life with them.
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