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I'm 15, and bisexual. I have recently come out about this, but I've only told my closest friends, none of whom are gay or bi. They all seem to think being bisexual is greedy! It feels like I should be jumping down one side or other of the bisexual fence, but I'm not ready to choose which one. I guess what my friends have really made me think is that being bi is not a valid sexuality, although I know I really am attracted to guys and girls.
Someone put me right on this one!

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superfluous' - Ingrid

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I'm bi - and when anyone ever says that I'm just being greedy (which they sometimes do even now...), I just look and them, give a grin and just say 'and?'. THat normally confuses them and shuts them up!!! (although I do have a reputation for being a bit sarky about everything, maybe that wouldn't work for you)

You say you know you really are attracted to boys and girls? Sounds valid enough to me. Seriously - if you have to *choose* (as in - i like both, but can only have one) a way to go, it isn't the right thing to do. If it comes naturally to you to be attracted to all genders, then go with it...

Sorry if I'm rambliing, but it's midnight here and have just finished a horrible essay for uni
(he's back! and with internet access at home!)

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Bisexuality is most certainly a valid sexual orientation. And there's nothing "greedy" about it, although that's a common misconception.

If you're attracted to both males and females, and you want to call yourself bisexual, go right ahead. It's your life and your sexual orientation, so you can call it anything you want.

Here are links to three articles from our Gaydar section that I thought you might find interesting, if you haven't already read them:

The Bees and...the Bees - A Homosexuality and Bisexuality Primer

Bi the Dozen - A Bisexuality Quiz

Don't Let the Door Hit You on the Way Out (Or, How to Come Out of the Closet Without Tripping Over the Laundry)


Kythryne Aisling
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I identify as being bisexual. No one has ever called me greedy, but usually the connotations are three-somes, group sex, incredible kinkiness, and incredible horniness. Not to say that I'm not any of those things, but it makes me angry that people make these connotations.

I just try to tell people that to me it doesn't matter which gender someone is, and when I like someone it's not for what genitals they have. *shrugs* it gets easier, it really does.

When I first started telling people I got harassing phone calls, a lot of crap from people of all sexual orientations, and a lot of nervous straight girls in the locker room. Now it's not a big deal at all. Every now and then someone will ask me if it's true that I like girls. I shrug and tell them yeah. And that's sort of that.


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