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ShaddowBoxer
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Here's the deal. I like girls and guys. To different degrees. People sometimes ask me if I'm straight, lesbien or bi. I don't like lables because they tend to reflect negative emotions about MY sexual identity, which really isn't anyone's business.

Like some of the other posts I've read, I live a duel life style. I haven't "come out" to very many people because they really don't need to know. I don't plan on telling my parents anytime before I graduate from HS, not because they wouldn't support me but because I am sure they would apply the same rules to my girlfriends as they do my guyfriends. There are a lot of homophobes at my school and a lot of religious shunners. Fortunately for me there are over 2,000 students at my HS, so I can kind of get lost in the crowd. Not many of my friends suspect that I like girls because I have had so many male-female relationships. I just choose not to tell certain people. I have "come out" to specific female crushes and also to my long term boyfriends and better friends. But not many people know or need to. They don't even know me, why do they need to know about my (nonexistent) sex life?

Shaddow


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sapphirecat
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That sounds really familiar. I can't put a label on my orientation. And I'm afraid that if I try and explain it to anyone (besides my girlfriend, who's been wonderfully supportive), they'll assume "cute" is a synonym for "sexy" and label me bi--and they still won't know who I am.

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indigodazed
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I agree. It seems that people always need to label and define everything. I too am attracted more than one gender, in different ways and intensities, so people label me as bi. It's so annoying.
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RachelsGurl7
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"Labels are for cans" ~ Anthony Rapp~
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