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Okay, so I thought I was a lesbian.. and now I find myself attracted to mass numbers of FTMs. I have always known I was deeply attracted to a butch - I started saying that I could appreciate a femme, but only wanted a butch for a relationship. It seems like that level has been upped to transgenders.

Does this make me less of a lesbian?

hush up, little dirty girl.

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Probably not, just as girls liking MtF's doesn't make them less hetero. But that's just my guess

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Well, technically, it does make sense that it would make you less textbook lesbian, but who cares for rules anyway? You can identify however you choose. I have lots of trans friends, and I've seen their partners deal with this in different ways. One approach is to consider their partner an "exception" if otherwise they are only attracted to women. Of course, if you are mainly attracted to FTMs, it might be harder to consider them an exception. You might decide to consider them an exception as a group. Or you might change the way you identify to fit your attractions. I have a friend who identified as a lesbian for years, and then when her partner transitioned, starting identifying as bisexual so as not to exclude the person she was in love with from her sexual orientation. Another way to deal with all this, and my personal favorite, is to do away with the labeling in general. You can just be attracted to whoever you're attracted to, be a part of whatever community(ies) you feel comfortable in, and have that be that. Of course, it's all up to you, because there is no "Lesbian Rulebook"

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Truthfully, you're sexuality is what you define it as. There is no set mold that you have to fall into. People change, and over time, their sexuality can change too. It's completly natural evolution.

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