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Hey everyone...I'm a little bit new to this forum, but I've been poking around a bit on Scarleteen...
Anyway, I always seem to have a "crush" on a woman who's much, much older than I am. Most of my friends know that I like girls, so coming out isn't much of an issue anymore, but once I mentioned one of these crushes to a friend and she acted like I was from Mars or something. Right now I have a ridiculous crush on a woman who's become a good friend and kind of a role model...but she's old enough to be my mother and she's also married. It's not much of a problem because nothing would ever happen between me and these women, but does this ever happen to anyone else? What should I do? Should I tell my friend that I have a crush on her? I'm worried that I'm never going to fall in love with someone of my own age...
Sorry the post is so long...but please give me a little advice.


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What you're describing sounds completely normal. I totally would not worry about it. It is likely to go away over time when you meet someone more your age you're into.

I think a lot of people have been there, done that, and bought the t-shirt, to be honest. Just stay open to forming relationships with other people, and it's likely to work itself out.

I would not say anything to this woman, to be honest, unless you feel compelled to persue it - something you've already said is very unlikely.

Hope this helps,

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I'm in love with my 29 year old P.E. teacher. I'm 16. OF course deep down I know its never going to happen, but hey stranger things have happened and I'll always have hope!

The main thing is not to say anything to this woman, she's married, and well, call me old fashioned but I would take that as she's straight and maybe you would end up hurt. You'll have crushes, of course you will, just like a straight teenager would, its part of growing up. Don't worry about falling in love with someone your own age, someday someone will come along when u least expect it. If you feel you can trust your friend and think yo're going to explode if u don't tell her, then tell her. But if not, then don't.

[This message has been edited by Slayer_gurl (edited 01-11-2002).]

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thanks! good advice, both of ya...and it makes me feel a lot better knowing that there are other people who've felt like this too.


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