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Buttercup
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I'm seriously thinking of coming out to my parents as bi tonight, does anyone have any tips on how to do it gently enough so I won't have to deal with a double heart attack??

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Before you criticize someone, walk a mile in his shoes. That way, if he gets angry, he'll be a mile away - and barefoot.


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Dude_who_writes
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Welcome to the wonderful world of coming out. There's really no universial way that you can come out to your parents and not have them freak out. It just depends on your parents. For some help, though, check out the great article Don't Let the Door Hit You On the Way Out!.

Also, check the Search Function, because this topic has undoubtedly been discussed before.


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Tim (a.k.a. the dude)
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"I am man who has grown from a son
Been crucified by enraged women
I am son who was raised by such men
I'm often reminded of the fools I'm among...
I am a man who still does what he can
to dispel our archaic reputation
I am a man who has heard all he can
Cause I don't fare well with endless punishment..." -- Alanis Morissette ("A Man")

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Buttercup
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Okay, I just did it, god knows how, but I just did. They didn't have a heart attack, and in fact they were quite cool about it (they actually used to term "enjoy both worlds"!), but they think it's just a phase. They wanted to know that I still like guys and didn't rule them out. They told me that they love me no matter what.
My heart's still pounding a 100 miles per hour...

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unhappykoger
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good for you!!!!!!!!! im glad that yoy got the reaction you wanted and that your parents support you even though they think it is just a phase. i wish that everyone was like your parents.
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kitty pryde
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Wow, Buttercup, that's always great to hear. You've got some very cool parents, and I bet they'll come to accept that it's not a phase once you give them a little time. Congratulations!
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How awesome! Go Buttercup! I'm really happy for you and the fact that you're parents were really cool with it.
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-Jill
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Whoo-hoo! *huge hug* Coming out to anyone always takes some guts but parents are the hardest. I'm glad everything went so well.
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Good on you!

It takes guts and you have 'em!

Hugs & Scully,
Winnie :0)


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Buttercup
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Thanks guys!
I'm still a bit overwhelmed... My mom told me this morning that it doesn't matter who
I end up spending my life with as long as it's someone who make me happy
God I love my parents

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Before you criticize someone, walk a mile in his shoes. That way, if he gets angry, he'll be a mile away - and barefoot.


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alaska
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eeep! Congratulations, Buttercup!

Very happy to hear that you got such a positive initial reaction from your parents. Like Kitty, I bet they'll soon realise that this isn't "just a phase". So nice to hear that what matters to them is primarily that you are happy.

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